Comfort for the Grieving
by Sometimes it’s difficult to know what to say to someone who is grieving a loss, or to hear those right words and know what to do to overcome grief.
If All Else Fails
If you see time is not gradually helping you to deal with the loss, and days or weeks later still feels like the day the deceased passed, this is a red flag. It’s time now to take other action and different measures. Seek help. Read books on how to overcome grief, take advantage of an employee assistance program benefit to get counseling. Research the internet and communicate with others who were where you are and learn how they finally overcame it. Tell your doctor about it. Ask for a referral to see a therapist. Don’t wait until the grief brings on out-of-character behavior or habits. Refuse to let it cause you to take your pain out on your other loved-ones or friends. Life would only get more
lonely. Seek spiritual guidance.
Recalling these things in your time of sorrow, or sharing this information with someone who is grieving can do the mourner a lot of good. It’s more sensitive when children mourn, especially the loss of parent(s). We really can’t predict how we’ll react to the death of a loved one at any age. The important thing is to move forward with the healing process, and recognize that if you or the grieving person becomes and remains bitter, angry, depressed, irritable, refusing to accept a parent’s new relationship(s) professional or spiritual help may be needed. Grief can hold the victim captive and keep them in bondage. Agreeing to allow themselves to be healed of their pain only says they free themselves, as much as the loved one, so they both can have peace; the kind the lost loved one wished for them when they lived.
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