Dealing with Death, at any Age

            Death is never easy, and it leaves many people, sad, angry, and even mad; but it is a part of life. Once you realize that it is a part of life, you must then try to find a way to handle it. Dealing with the death of a love one is very difficult, being able to take comfort in knowing that they have gone off to a better place, can comfort some.

            Children find it very difficult, since they don’t understand the concept, especially if it is a parent. Many people tell their children they are asleep, but by telling them they are sleeping, means that perhaps they may wake up?  Others are more honest by saying that God has called them home. Whatever you do tell your children, it should be the truth, since it is a natural part of life. Sometimes they want to see the one who died, that is a personal decision, keep in mind again that it is a part of life, and for some children, they need to see to believe. It also helps them, visually; otherwise they may draw a very disturbing picture in their mind. Funerals are for family and friends, they come together to say good-bye, but they also come together and usually talk about the person. It helps to talk about the your feelings, and have you ever noticed that even thou there is crying, there are people laughing, and recalling memories.

            The cemetery is a resting place, where it is quiet and peaceful. Many people find it a place to go, spent quiet time with their love one; also it can be helpful in the healing process. To know you have some place to go, to visit, can ease the loneliness.

Some may think that dying is a punishment; that should never be considered. You have to realize with age the body becomes weak and worn, for some it may be the heart, for others it may be a disease. Sometimes we get confused when someone dies early in their life.  Why is what everyone wonders; others believe that we all have a purpose and when our purpose is complete it is time to “rest”.

It helps to have faith, to believe in Heaven, the soul or spirit. Having faith means believing in something we cannot see or feel. Having faith that one day, you will be reunited with one another, but for now, you sadness is real; and you don’t have to hide it, its reality. You are sad because you miss someone; that you loved? Spent a big part of your life with? Look to photos for they will help the healing process and bring back what I hope are happy memories. Photos and Memories live forever.