Farewell Concetta Amelia

I believe we must be merciful and forgiving. For if we cannot be filled with such, how can we expect such? Yes, even those who have caused us the most grievous pain in our lives. If we fall to our knees and beg our Father, our God, to forgive our sins, can we expect that He will hear our plea and forgive us. I think He will, but only if we have learned what forgiveness and mercy truly are. For how can you know what it feels like to be burned, if you have never been burned? You don’t. So we must know what it feels like to be forgiven to forgive. We have to know what it feels like when someone shows us mercy, to show mercy to another.

It is not easy to forgive dear ones. Its one of the hardest things you will ever do in your life, if you can do it at all. It is not easy to offer one who has broken you, more than once, a cup of cool water when they are on their knees dying of thirst. But you can chose to offer that cup of water to those who have hated you the most. Even if they drink it and spit in your face. That is of no reflection upon you! It is a reflection of who they really are. Unrepentant.

If we allow others, who have brought us such pain, to change who we are, then they have won. But if we can somehow get above the pain and grief, and decide how we want to live – we can become anyone we wish to become.

After all, there is no better revenge than to become the person you always wanted THEM to be.