Dying is usually perceived as a form of defeat and not as something inevitable by most people. So we try our best to fight it despite the fact that more often than not, we are fighting a losing battle. If you are dying and you know it, accepting it gracefully will greatly benefit you and the people around you. Here are some principles to live by before death catches up on you.
Don’t go into denial that you have a terminal illness.
If you have been diagnosed with a terminal illness or a debilitating disease that will take years before you finally die, accept that you are dying. Of course, a miracle may happen, but it may also not happen at all, so learn more about your illness. It is better that you know how to take care of yourself or how to deal with the disease once it progresses. Not accepting it will not add more years to your life anyway. Accepting it, ironically, may.
Develop a grateful attitude.
Try counting all the blessings you have right now and the blessings you received in the past instead of focusing on your illness, the situation, or the end of it all. Things to be grateful for can be what you can still do right now, material possessions, caring friends and family members, caregivers, your still functioning body parts (including your mind), the food you eat, and anything that is beneficial to you. There must be at least one thing you can be thankful for right now.
Show a quiet spirit as much as possible.
It is natural and understandable to whine and complain about your health issues and the circumstances around you. You may have feelings of fear and anger as well. These feelings are valid. However, they are also counterproductive. Grumpy sick people do not arouse compassion. Why make people want to hate you? Hard as it is, do your best to lessen the complaints and anxiety. If you need to release all those pent-up feelings once in a while, try to explain why you are feeling what you are feeling and then apologize for ranting. If you explain why you ranted, people will understand where you are coming from. People will also be more forgiving if you apologize. You see, human beings generally do not really like to hear the aches and pains or worries of any person. They have their own problems to contend with.
Do the things you’ve always wanted to do if it is still possible.
There must be a hobby you’ve always wanted to do or a book that you’ve been wanting to read or a project that you’ve been waiting to start but had no time to do before. Now is the time to do one of these activities while waiting for your final hour. It will also divert your attention from your illness and make you feel more fulfilled. It will also give you a sense of purpose during the remaining days of your life.