The Post Bereavement Healing Process
by A look at how the bereaved can be supported during their most difficult moments. Factors like an understanding spirit,kind words, a listening ear, and a shoulder to lean on are discussed.
In case of a violent death, it is important to help the family to forgive those who commit the act. Hate and desire for revenge are enemies to the healing process and can delay it for years.
An unforgiving spirit can lead to further death, and disease, so tactfully the family should be helped to achieve forgiveness.
Every member of a bereaved family has different personality and will handle the loss differently, therefore unity and an understanding spirit will be critical during these post bereavement periods.
Pastors and church Counselors are excellent shoulders to lean on during these times. Their kind words and support can serve as bridge over troubled waters.
I remember being told during one of my troubled times that “This too shall pass”. Those words meant a lot to me when it was said. It brought hope to my spirit and helped to lift me in the days and months that went by.
Healing after bereavement is predicated on time, attitude, fellowship, comfort, financial support, prayers, and a desire to live for the future.
Sometimes it will take us years to understand why God took our loved ones and when we arrive there we may look back with a better perspective and be thankful.
Death in the family will never be easy, even if the person was sick for months. We still want them around and at times selfishness on our part is a big problem in the equation.
Perhaps the maker of that person has called earthly time out and engineered a departure much tour dissatisfaction.
I believe it is human and Ok to cry as long as possible when we are bereft of reasons for such a predicament, however there may a purpose why we are allowed to go through that storm.
As time goes by the tears will dry up and greater peace will come in.
The sunshine will then break through to light up the eyes, and bathe the beautiful white teeth, as live takes on a new meaning and purpose.
When revival comes to the bereaved, the old places will come to life, the shopping centers will have more family business, and the aroma from the kitchen will invade the neighbor’s verandah.
May this be the experience of every bereaved family wherever they are today? That too has and will pass for you.
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