Comments on: Bullying

By: B Nelson

B Nelson — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 15:06:14 +0000

If anyone wishes to read the account of the bullying at the sleep over it is here
http://www.authspot.com/Biographies/Hating-Clowns-and-Friends.760713

By: Verena

Verena — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 16:45:04 +0000

I think the section in your article about the things we can do to stop bullying is great and bang on. I have done these things in my life but not consistantly. In high school I hated bullying yet saw it all the time. I was not strong enough to stand up and say stop, and none of us want to be the target next! I did what I could, befriending people that were ‘different’ and trying to help bullied people feel better after the fact by saying something sympathetic or befriending them.

As I grew up I would do something if I saw bullying. I often have stopped where I could see something was going on (don’t we all instinctively know?) and I told the ‘gang’ to stop or the bully to stop. Bullies often will talk back but they end up respecting the fact that the person said something and will think about it later. I have spoken up to stop vandalism and such too when others said, be quiet, that kid will do something to you. We should not all have to live in fear of others. Making them accountable, being the one to stand up, is the right thing to do. Just be safe!

I do think that human nature ‘makes’ us do a lot of things and parents who are uninformed or busy often do not teach children that they need to curb natural instincts. BUT as people, we all are responsible to change NOW in our lives and to always think about others and how they feel.

I do believe that people need to learn forgiveness and to let go and trust people again. There are a lot of good people out there worth knowing. Just because someone looks like a princess (and believe me I did) does not make them rude or a bully or hiding something. I had my own set of problems by being too pretty and cute when all I wanted was to be left alone. I won’t get into my suffering, and believe me, I did suffer.

I also saw the result of bullying, my friend’s son at 12 commited suicide over it and I am very anti-bullying.

I also believe that you need to move on and create something new so that you generate good vibrations in and around you. This girl who had the sleepover (yes I read the other story about the clown) may have been bullied as much as you by the others at the sleepover. The true culprit was likely one girl and then the madness of the crowd takes over. I’m glad you did not say anything to the mother you saw, imagine if that woman had lost her daughter or whatever. You cannot know what others suffer, only yourself. Think about that, what have others suffered? I believe that Karma will take over and ‘teach’ people what they need to know. Meanwhile your not letting go and forgiving will keep a hole of suffering in your soul.

Blessings to you and may we all create a new world where we all love and understand each other.

By: ladybaby

ladybaby — Tue, 19 May 2009 02:51:01 +0000

I hate bullying. I was bullied as a child because I was too skinny, and I had a learning disability. I was an introvert and terribly shy as a result. I did not over come it until I was well in my middle age. You don’t forget the pain of it. Those who bully do not realize the harm they do. Talking about it needs to be done, so it can be curbed. Thanks

By: scout

scout — Thu, 14 May 2009 19:11:20 +0000

I have just recently come across your work and I have to say it is informative and indeed very knowledgeable. From the heart and honest.I admire this piece especially as many can relate to this at so many different levels.
If you ever get a chance drop by my profile and read my take on the bullying aspect.It is never easy to deal with it, some manage better than others, those that do succeed are the lucky ones.

By: A.L.Smith

A.L.Smith — Wed, 13 May 2009 17:07:51 +0000

Great article.

By: Martie

Martie — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 18:30:08 +0000

I really liked your article. And you did a good job of getting your point across.

By: Emma C S

Emma C S — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 23:01:35 +0000

I agree with you here, for the most part. Like a lot of things there’s a vicious circle: to educate the child, you must educate the parents, to educate the parents you must educate them as a child (in most cases), but to educate the child you have to educate the parents. My mum is a teacher, she keeps saying pretty much the same thing.

I don’t think television is that damaging, but other than that I agree with you.

By: Scout

Scout — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 20:19:47 +0000

That was a powerful body of work in it’s entirety. Thanks for your openness and yes it is that which life holds out or deals out for us, it is hope we come to grips with this , makes us stronger over time and perhaps through articles like this, shed an understanding and a hope to those that have lived or are living a nightmare.Thanks again for sharing. Irish Blessings

By: Daisy Peasblossom

Daisy Peasblossom — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 03:36:11 +0000

While I agree that we are mammals, and mammals establish a pecking order, bullying carries normal one-up-manship to a painful degree. One of the ways to combat the problem is to model the behavior you expect; expect students to be kind every time–and enforce the behavior, even though you can’t change the feelings; work on ways to phrase needed correction that is specific yet kind. This article reminds us that we must come to terms with our own nature. In spite of her own experiences, I see at the end of it, “I would not allow myself to be bullied now, and nor do I bully anyone.” That is the kind of decision that has to be made individually for bullying to end.

By: RJ Chamberlain

RJ Chamberlain — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 02:33:09 +0000

As a teacher I see it everyday albeit on different scales, mostly amongst girls and its usually verbal. Sometimes children dont even know what bullying is.

Nice work B Nelson. It needs to be addressed but the question is how?

RJ