Underachieving: The Expectations of Society
by If the children are not intellectually challenged at school, they may lose motivation and achieve at a mediocre level. We need to learn how to inspire and motivate, manage better the classroom or a company. One aspect of the education that must be considered is that all students are different, with different backgrounds, knowledge, interests and learning styles. Each student should be treated individually.
Teachers and parents should be working together to distinguish and solve the underachievement. Like that teachers will be able to understand better the problems that student and parents are facing, and use their experience trying to help them. We need to know how to identify the problem and find some constrictive strategies so we can help overcome the problem.
We could learn to see the warning signs of underachievement and if we collaborated together we will be able to obtain an accurate assessment of the child’s academic and social problems. The underachievement can be found in every grade in school and can occur in any level of intellectual ability. Parents are the “most powerful change agents” in the process of treating the underachievement. By modifying the way in which they interact with the child, they can help it modify his/her inappropriate internal believe. They should try to communicate constructively rather than destructively with underachiever. This is not an easy process. How we learn to translate the underachiever’s frustrating and incomprehensible way of behaving?
The teachers’ assistance and commitment to the treatment process is necessary as well. Parents and teachers should learn to work together in helping the underachiever become a successful student.
If someone has an allergies and he goes to the hospital because he got a bad rush the best solution for this persons it is not only to give him a pill so the rush goes away for a day or two but to find out from what he got the allergies so he will never have it again. We need to dig deep inside in child’s mind and try to understand why it behave the way it do not only in the classroom but also with it relationship with teachers and classmates, and then knowing what happening we will be able to prevent problems before they occur.
We have to get to know our kids better, see what stays behind the bad behavior and with understanding, care and patience try to help them become successful, independent, and responsible in what they are doing. They are two ways of constructive communication with the underachiever. The first one distractive is when communicating we build “internal images of the self as incompetent and internal images as unhelpful” (Natalie Rathvon, “The Unmotivated Child”). The opposite of distractive is constructive where the build “images of the self that is valuable and competent and images of others who are accessible and responsive” (Natalie Rathvon, “The Unmotivated Child”). Parents
should learn to communicate constructively with their kids. They should identify feelings because that will “validate the child’s
inner life in a highly meaningful way” (Natalie Rathvon, “The Unmotivated Child”). When a child feels that it can tell her/his parents when she/he feels bad, she/he becomes free to learn and explore.
Underachievement is curable. No kid wants to be an underachiever. Parents and teachers should work together and learn to translate the massages for help coming from the students.
If the children are not intellectually challenged at school, they may lose motivation and achieve at a mediocre level. The same things happened to a workers if they are not motivated well they may do them job just enough to get by. 
But our current modes of learning provide little individualization. As a teachers or a parents, we will have to ware many hats. Being an effective teacher or a parent it is not only to run an effective classroom or safe home but to touch the lives of children.
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