Black Women and Masculinity; Lets Get to The Bottom of This Rhetoric

I am so sick of Black men who want to date White women saying that Black women are masculine. What does that mean exactly, because I have always known Black women to be strong, but I never confused that with being masculine. Back in the early eighties a girl that I knew that had a crush on me showed her affection by hitting on me. Now you know that Chris is not a fighter, and she could hit hard and I wasn’t sure what to do about this. I was never raised to hit back at a woman, so I found my own ways around it but I often wonder what the implications are for Black women that have a strange way of showing their appreciation.

It took me a while to figure out why I was decked for no apparent reason. The Black women I knew were always like this, in fact I don’t know anything about soft, docile, meek women. I don’t know how women of other cultures deal with the men of their own race, and I rightfully do not care. If I were to ever speak to those women they would have the characteristics I am used to in a Black woman anyway. The few Black women that I do know that the have the traits that Black men swear other women have are either alone or in relationships where they find themselves becoming passive aggressive and acting out in strange ways. They could have anger issues because people tend to take them for granted; this is not the definition of a healthy relationship to me.

I realize that a lot of young women cannot cook, clean, or do much of anything else it would seem. These are all things that I can do myself if I really needed to. I have to laugh at these men that were so preoccupied with getting a “dime piece” that either refuse to take care of themselves or have to resort to exploiting their own sexuality to do so that ended up with dead weight in the relationship. The woman is fully capable of getting by herself and typically does a lot better than you do when she does work. You loose your job and she does not want to take care of you and she walks out of the door before you can figure out how to get back on your feet. For every Black woman that does this there are women of other cultures that do the same.

It is great that Black women are accomplished in the workplace and that they are making more money than they ever have before. However they are not the only women to make a big deal of the fact that they are educated and can out earn you. These Black men have obviously not encountered any of the White women that I know that are out there with the same attitudes and a similar prejudice and indifference towards men that are not doing better than they are. If you want someone different it is a free country you are welcome to do so and you do not have to be accountable to anyone other than your mate for your actions. But keep the filthy politics of why you are doing so to yourself because when you do not the rest of us are just convinced that you are in that relationship for all of the wrong reasons.