Born a Different Way, or Merely a Desire to be Different?
by This is nothing more than an honest discussion about the origin of "homosexuality". Starting with my own opinion, I hope to here many others. Comment as much as you wish!
I am not a religious person, yet I respect other’s beliefs. But in a non-religious view, it is nearly impossible for one’s sexual preference to be determined at birth, when sexual feelings do not emerge until adolescence. It is natural for a being to be curious about intimacy with the same sex, and maybe even try to experience it. This is why it was once rare, and unheard of. To be “gay”, in my opinion, deprived from when people were caught in the act of said curiosity. Then, labeled as homosexuals or gay, they were shunned, and accepted that as themselves, merely because of other’s opinions on that person. Over the years, people started feeling sympathy for “homosexuals”, who really just accepted what others made them believe they were for one “wrongful” act. Eventually, people began to brainwash themselves in order to have originality that they were “born that way”, or “naturally gay/bi.” And to this day, the acceptance of those who can call themselves gay or bisexual is basically required to exist as an acceptable human being in society. THIS IS RIDICULOUS. Just because you either want to be different, or you were brain-washed into being a homosexual, I must accept you as something you’re honestly not? Curiosity was given to human beings for a reason, but I am very skeptical that a person could be strictly gay or claim they’re “bi-sexual”, (generally because they don’t HATE the experience.) I would NEVER demonize a person for their experiences, but I will not petition for equality of something that someone only BELIEVES they are. (Granted, many don’t agree with my opinion for religious reasons. They say “Experiences alone are a sin, and not to be tolerated.” Yet all human beings “sin.” In no way is this any more or less severe than other “sins” within the Holy Bible.)
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Post CommentRachel
On May 26, 2011 at 11:44 pm
First, I must say, I dont understand your blog point of view.
You say your stance is you think gay/bisexual/lesbian people \”decide\” this course in life because they \”dont hate it\”.
Then, at the end, you said, \”Granted many of you wont agree with me for religious reasons yet all human beings sin\”
Hmm, seems strange to me. Usually someone who is not religious would not be bringing god into this issue, or expect a gay/lesbian/bisexual to disagree with you for religious reasons. You realize that the church isnt very friendly to the homosexual community right?
Im non religious. No worries.
I do however, disagree with your statements.
I want to know, why do you care? Its not your life. If I say I\’ve wanted to be with women because I\’ve WANTED to be with woman (NOT because \”I havent hated it\”) then how does that even affect you in your little world?
This is my life. I have been attacted to both men and women since puberty. I\’ve dated both. Im very comfortable with my life. I was born bisexual. It wasnt a choice for me.
Was being hetrosexual a choice for you?
There are many animals who are bisexual and homosexual, do they get that choice? or, are they born that way?
In any case, thanks for the read! I\’ve written about this topic as well, come visit sometime.
Doug DeLong
On May 27, 2011 at 7:43 pm
It was truly by accident that I ran into this site and into this section and then your article. Oh man…where do I begin? First let me say that I am a 47 year old openly gay man. I cannot recall a time in my life when I wasn’t gay really. I was always “different”.
My first sexual memory occurred with other boys my own age when I was only six years old. This was no molestation or older boy younger boy induction rather, I came about it naturally and normally. Because for ME that WAS normal. I led the life you described in a society that while evolving and moving towards social justice for others homosexuality was simply unheard of. No one “we knew” was gay.
I even recall sneaking off in my parents bedroom and getting out their nightstand book that they got from the doctor about sex..In the section about homosexuality there was an illustration of a man in a dark alley luring at some school kids as they walked by. The booki went on to say that homosexuals were sick and that it was a mental illness. THAT was what people thought about gay folk when I was growing up.
After constantly denying that I was gay I married a woman and had a child and led a normal, productive and yet deeply miserable life. Believing that happiness could only be found by embracing who I truly was I came out in 1985 and divorced my wife. I remained a good father to my only son and I am I hope a good father still today. Oh and of course I am a new grandfather. My grandson was born four months ago and I couldn’t be prouder.
Your article promotes the idea that those of us who are gay, chose to be gay for a variety of reasons among them the desire to be “different”. Well it sure is different alright when you get bullied on the playground and called queer and sissy and faggot. It sure is different and fun when people take baseball bats to you in order to “teach the queer a lesson”:. Finally even in death the fun continues when if you are a person of notariety and you are gay or even if you have died from complications of AIDS a midwestern minister might jsut picket at your funeral with such lovely life affirming signs as “Burn in Hell Fag”. Actually being gay for all of us in the exclusive club is so much fun. I mean who wouldn’t weant their funeral picketed by Fred Phelps I ask you.
No one I know would ever choose this life given the backdroop of homophobia and hate that I just described. When I ask you did you officially decide to be straight? I mean, it is a choice you know. When you can remember making that decision, I will tell you when I made my decison to be gay.
A word of advice to you my dear based on a long life of kicks in the shins “speak not of what you know not of”.
MollyJackson
On May 28, 2011 at 1:09 pm
Hehe.. Funny how you all believe I am strictly heterosexual. Funny how you only pin-pointed sections of my article that YOU found interesting, not realizing what I was trying to get across. In no way or manner, did I say I was heterosexual, yet you assumed so. But being labeled “bi-sexual” is awful to me, considering it is a label. Maybe I wanted to bring religious points of view into this article, because I’m a good writer. I feel like I wish to connect with all sorts of people, not just people of my own views. Why don’t you read my article again? Why don’t you see what I’m REALLY trying to say? It seems to me, you saw this as a gay-bashing article with bigger words, and wanted to look big by standing up for gay rights. In NO WAY is this categorized as a “gay-bashing” article, so stop stereotyping and grouping pieces of work without actually reading in-between the lines, or even just the words on the page.
Have a nice day.
MollyJackson
On May 28, 2011 at 1:24 pm
And yes, in the first edition of the DSMV 1956, Homosexuality WAS considered a mental disorder. And is it still..? I think not. -.- I don\’t see your point.