Reflections of a Radical Lesbian

As with most things, the ‘male’ embraces the female. Hence ‘Gay’ society is made up of Male Homosexuals and the imputation is that they speak for all ‘Gays’; lesbians included.

From the beginnings of the Gay Movement in America, male homosexuals have taken the spotlight, telling the community what they want.

To present a united front, most lesbians have been silent and gone along for the ride; some going so far as to adopt many of the male choices as their own.

To avoid splintering the group, most lesbians have remained silent, and wider society assumes that the males speak for the females.

This is not accurate.

To put it simply, if a lesbian wanted to be married she would have remained married to the man who was her husband, for unlike male homosexuals, many females have gone through the heterosexual indoctrination, until some point in their lives perhaps after bearing a child or two, realise their true identity.

Although it is often said that men drive women into lesbianism, (which looking at the number of lesbians who were once abused children, abused wives, who may have been raped by a male relative or the man they ‘loved’, seems accurate) many women adopted the hetero life style because the reality of who they are was masked.

There is nothing odd about women fussing with each other’s hair, going to the ladies room together, so that the simple companionship feature was fulfilled.

Sex wasn’t supposed to be all that much fun and as a lot of the foreplay was enough to get orgasm, there was no impetus to abandon the hetero relationship as long as it wasn’t painful.

Once it became painful, once a woman realised that she was closer to her girlfriends than to her boyfriends, once she realised the sexual pleasure she received from a man was better gotten from a woman, unless she was in a very restricted environment, discarding the hetero accouterments was the next step.

Many young radical feminists have no intention of bearing children, and once that is out of the way, there is no reason to even pretend to be straight.

The idea of marriage becomes something certain male gays and female ‘glays’ demand because they want to be straight.

They may say what they like, but once they opt for the ’straight’ life style they are virtually saying that they don’t want to be who they are.  That just as many male homosexuals attend psychiatrists now that homosexuality is no longer a disease, screams that they have not really accepted themselves; “Who would chose to be this way?” they say, claiming to have been ‘born’ that way.

Radical Lesbians have fully accepted their identity. They do not want to be straight or practice pseudo straight life styles.

Marriage is one of those obvious hetero features.

Yes, there are a number of lesbians who come out and wish to marry. Why?  Because maybe they aren’t really comfortable with the gay identity and feel that the more straightness they get in their lives the more ‘normal’ they will be.

Those who have fully accepted themselves see modern marriage as a must avoid.

The mere idea of a wedding ceremony is repulsive. Marry for what?  To take someone else’s name? To be able to divorce? What is the point of marriage?

If partners want to open a business or buy a house, they can do so without marriage.  If one wishes to leave her property to another at death, there are wills.

There is no reason to go through any version of marriage when there are a plethora of legal devices which grant more and better protection.

Yet, to pretend solidarity, the radical lesbian remains silent during this recent demand for gay marriage.