For weeks, months really we have heard about Prop 8. First it was about why one should be against Prop 8 or for it and now we are hearing all the uproar over it passing thus now banning marriage between same sex couples in California.

Some of the ballot text aligned with Prop 8 is to note marriage should only be between a man and a woman on the pretense that marriage is for the purpose of creation of children. Along with this, part of the argument of why Prop 8 was needed is the part concerning required changes to school curriculum as well as the threaten of church tax benefits and then of course a number of other bullshit ideals.

Ok, I’m gay well a lesbian actually in case the title is specifically needed. This topic of gay marriage is hot and is a part of conversation almost daily. At my office I have been asked my opinion of this proposition and have found it quite amusing that in a conservative organization we are discussing this topic and trying to make sense of it from both sides.

Here is my take on Prop 8 which seems to be putting me on the fence of the matter in the eyes of my gay community as well as the straight community – Marriage is simply a word people, let it go. Ok settle down, let me step this out further.

If marriage is to be based on the religious concept that it purely is for the creation of children then I believe only those who are creating children should be allowed to marry and it should only be performed in a church. Therefore if a heterosexual couple is getting “married” for any reason other than to have children they should be denied. If a heterosexual couple is unable to have children or not want children, the marriage should be dissolved or not allowed. If the heterosexual couple is not “married” in a church, then it will not legally be a marriage. And lastly once the couple has hit the age where they are no longer of child bearing age, the marriage should be dissolved.

Crazy? Piss you off maybe? People whether you are gay or straight the issue of equality should not be tied to a word and certainly should not be tied to religion. That is what has happened to the word marriage, it is tied to a very religious ideal and unless I am mistaken this goes against what was noted in our U.S. Constitution Bill of Rights – that the church and state were to be separate and thus no law would be created on the establishment of religion.

I think what we as people need to concentrate on is getting equal rights for everyone regardless of sexual orientation, race, religious belief, cultural belief, etc. Let’s get religion out of our homes and put it back where it belongs, in the church. The churches should only be allowed to create ideals that affect their church and not a community’s people.  I mean really by allowing the church to affect state and federal laws is like telling everyone that the rules of house next door dictates what we must all do.

Let’s put focus on creating equal rights for everyone in a committed relationship and call it whatever you want but get religion out of it. We all deserve the right to benefit from being a couple whether gay or straight so let’s stop worrying about what we call it and just make it happen.