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The Pros and Cons of Being a Homosexual

Pros and cons.

Some of you may view this article (and due the the title) may instantaneously think I’m saying homosexuality is a choice… But it is not. You are born gay, lesbian, straight, or bisexual. Those of us whom are in fact homosexual face not only the stereotypical challenges society creates, but also the pleasures of being who we are and understanding, with the utmost respect, the meaning of freedom of choice (again not saying homosexuality is a choice, but the choice to be open with whom we are). Contrary to popular belief, I feel starting off with the negative is better than starting off with the positive because it leaves room to lighten the mood,  rather than end on a dreary note. With that being said, I will start off with the cons of being a homosexual.

Cons:

  1. Starting off with the obvious, homosexuals are often attacked by those who practice religion. Along with this comes the idea that because of who we love, we will go to Hell. In addition, those of whom (who are homosexual) who follow a certain religion that is against same-sex relations, are banned from their practices and in the Christian religion – no longer aloud in God’s house (Church). 
  2. Homosexuals are often looked at as “disgusting” or “revolting” in the eyes of society. Many people believe that homosexuals are who they are because they want to rebel or spite their parents or any other authoritative figure. Also, people tend to believe that people are homosexual because they are sex-crazed. This is rather offensive, because it is not the case for people who are ACTUALLY gay.
  3. If you are a lesbian, many of your female friends may feel as though you are looking at them “that” way (as in being interested in them or finding them attractive), which could create a strain on any normal girl to girl friendship. If you are gay, a good example of prejudice would be in a locker room setting. Let’s say gym class is over and it is time to shower, change, etc. Most of the men (stereotypically speaking) will not feel comfortable doing as such in the presence of one homosexual. And if you are one of the people who view things this way, let me ask you this; because you are straight does that mean you are interested in every woman you see (for men) or interested in every guy you see (for women)? No. Same goes for homosexuals. They are not interested in everyone of the same sex. They are just like you. In addition to prejudice, homosexuals are bullied for no reason – and in some cases, cruel bullying could turn into a traumatic experience for unlucky homosexuals.
  4. Generation is the root of all evil in this case. Due to the olden day tradition of man and woman, as life goes on it is taught that you are to be with the opposite sex. You parents don’t teach you that it is okay to fall in love with some one of the same sex. They don’t preach the ideas of equality – they portray homosexuality as a wrong-doing. However, it is fact that homosexuality has been around since the dawn of time. In fact, one of the early Greek islands, Lesbos, was the birth of the word lesbian because of it’s woman-loving poet, Sappho (who was also a woman).
  5. One big down side to being homosexual is the fact that they cannot produce offspring together. Unfortunately homosexuals couples have to look towards adoption and for woman, they have the alternative choice of artificial insemination. Of course, to adopt a child, you have to have the legal right. In certain states in the US, you cannot adopt children if you are gay. There are many rights you are denied when you are a homosexual. Sure, they may not have to worry about the death penalty, but they are denied rights such as funeral right, will rights, hospital visitation rights, and adoption rights.

Although these are only a few of the negative things homosexuals have to face, there are indeed many more. Fortunately, there are also many positive things to being homosexual which counter-act those negative points. And with that being said, here are the pros!

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  1. AshleyApathy

    On February 11, 2011 at 10:43 pm


    Amazing article! :) 5 stars!

  2. mikailahmayhem69

    On February 25, 2011 at 12:24 pm


    Actually, Adam, you are incorrect. I’m not saying that as soon as I was born I started acting upon my sexuality. I’m saying I was born the way I was and I grew into myself. Homosexuality is genetics. If it were a choice…why would I choose to go down a path that will only withhold a life of ridicule and inequality? Why would i CHOOSE to lose my whole family? No, sir. You are wrong..it is not a choice. However, I could CHOOSE to be something I’m not and pretend to be straight my whole life, but I won’t like it..and that’s not me. So no, being a lesbian is not a choice. I am intimate with women because that is all I’m attracted to.. You sound so ignorant. Please, educate yourself and use logic before you argue with me.

  3. sonya

    On March 9, 2011 at 6:34 pm


    dont argue with an idiot.. i mean adam. he will take u down to his level and beat u with experience. he doesn\’t have a biology degree and he doesn\’t even understand the garbage that he\’s spewing.

  4. sfasd

    On March 23, 2011 at 3:07 am


    except there has never been actual evidence supporting that its not a choice. sure a lot of people will say they were born that way but that doesn\’t make it true. I\’m not saying it is a choice but there is no gay gene founded as of yet.

  5. Shezelle

    On March 24, 2011 at 1:46 pm


    Adam, you are clearly a biggotted fool.
    sfasd, they havn’t found genes for -much- as far as humans go

    Back to the point, LOVE this article. However, i’m not sure how far i can agree with most gays being creative, considering I am a full blown science bod :F not to say im your stereotypical geek but im not exactly what you would consider a creative person.

    and just a snippet, why would anyone choose to be ridiculed by society virtually everyday? or be shunned by most groups and even be stripped of most other rights straight people have?

    what i dont quite understand is why people are branded by sexuality, in the grad scheme of things it’s hardly an important feature of a human being, no?

  6. mikailahmayhem69

    On March 24, 2011 at 10:27 pm


    thank you shezelle, and i\’m glad you enjoyed my article :]

  7. Erin Miller

    On March 30, 2011 at 1:36 pm


    !Yes you are born gay. I was born a lesbian! :) Unlike you I have met mean homosexuals but due to your age I believe I have a little more life experience. I am 23. Also, don’t forget Alexander the Great was a homosexual and homosexuality was encouraged in the Ancient Greek army. :)

  8. Jess

    On May 7, 2011 at 10:53 pm


    It still makes me laugh and at the same time angry at the stupidity of some people when they try to convince me that my sexuality is a choice. The question is, do you choose to be straight? no! it is your instinct i.e. what you were born with. Like others have said, if it was a choice, then I really don\’t see why anyone would choose it because of the inequality and prejudice you face. But now I would\’t want it any other way, I accept who I am and most of all I love women.

    All I can say to this article is: I agree that we are a supportive community who believe in equality and will always fight for it, which I am proud of. But I am not really that creative so I don\’t know if that would apply to all gays. Also I have met some nasty homosexuals in my life, I don\’t think sexuality reflects personality in that sense, everyone is different. But sweet article, lets hope it educates some idiots along the way. :)

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