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Top Eight Ways for Under-18s to Meet Lesbians and Gay People

Many gay and lesbians under 18 find it difficult to meet other teenagers like them. Gay dating websites and nightclubs very rarely cater to young people. Here are eight ways to meet gay and lesbian teenagers, to widen social networks, and hopefully end up feeling more accepted.

There are lots of options open for gay and lesbian people over 18 to meet- lots of online dating sites, nightclubs and probably a much wider social circle (because at the very least they’ll probably own a car). But for gays and lesbians under 18, meeting people can be much more difficult. There’s added peer-pressure, and a lot of people around you will be unsure of their sexuality. Someone who’s bisexual or gay one day might not be the next. It’s not their fault, it’s just growing up.

Teenagers generally need guidance when it comes to relationships- it’s one reason that parents are around. But since 99% of parents are heterosexual, gays and lesbians often have to navigate their way through themselves. This works- maybe not perfectly, but it doesn’t cause too many problems- but it could make the few years between coming out and university that bit nicer if there was a little more that people had to say on the matter.

Join the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgendered Society

One of the best things you can do is join the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgendered Society (LGBT Society) at school, if there is one, or a similar alternative. If successful, it’s a sure-fire way to meet people who you know are there for the same reasons. One of the most difficult parts of meeting gay and lesbian people as a teenager is having to guess who’s straight and who’s not. Visiting an LGBT group is an easy way to cut to the chase in this respect. And if there isn’t one at the school you go to, maybe you have the confidence and time to start your own one.

Find an Older Gay friend

This is something that will probably happen naturally – people float towards like-minded people. Finding an older gay friend will hopefully help introduce you to a wider range of gay and lesbians under 18, give you any extra confidence you might need, and can answer questions you might have. Of course, this is easier said than done (which is why this article was written) but it’s something to bear in mind while following the other tips.

Gay Events

These can be few and far between if you live somewhere rural, or in a country that might be less-than-accepting of homosexuality. But when they come around, they’re one of the best ways to meet people- especially if you’re somewhat of a festival-goer in the first place. The various activities make great conversation, and a chance to meet gay and lesbian people under 18 that have similar interests to you. Not only that, but there will be many organizations advertising in some events and if any grab your attention, feel free to join them!

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  1. help me

    On March 7, 2009 at 10:22 pm


    i am under 18, actually 13, and there are pretty much no gays at my school.
    AND i go to a catholic school, making it harder to meet more people like me.
    AND i am in one of the most stereotype-ic places in the U.S …. Texas.
    If you would please help me, that would be great.
    (I met someone today, while at a friends house, At first looks, he looks gay, but… I can’t tell.)
    I will most likely never get to see him again, unless, I
    If you recommend me for anything, please email me at : erichenderson62@yahoo.com

    -Eric-

  2. Eric

    On March 7, 2009 at 10:27 pm


    (sorry for posting this twice, but read this one first, the other comment wasn’t finished)

    i am under 18, actually 13, and there are pretty much no gays at my school.
    AND i go to a catholic school, making it harder to meet more people like me.
    AND i am in one of the most stereotype-ic places in the U.S …. Texas.
    If you would please help me, that would be great.
    (I met someone today, while at a friends house, At first looks, he looks gay, but… I can’t tell.)
    I will most likely never get to see him again, unless, I Ask my friend for his number, or something like that…
    If you recommend me for anything, please email me at : erichenderson62@yahoo.com

    -Eric-

  3. Francois Hagnere

    On April 12, 2009 at 4:26 am


    Bravo! this is a very intelligent article. People never imagine how difficult it is for young people who discover their homosexuality. They do need help. We must all help one another. This is life and life is solidarity.
    Thank you for writing this article.

  4. Jack

    On June 7, 2009 at 12:07 pm


    Hi , my name is Jack and i am 13 years old. I find it very hard to look for gay teens like me and i dont really trust people on the internet. I really need help , because i want t have experience of having a boyfriend . Can u please help me . I live in Glasgow , Scotland. I would appreciate if you send me something that will help me. Thank You . My email is big.jack.c@hotmail.com

  5. sam

    On July 16, 2009 at 10:29 am


    i am 15 and living in london i find it hard becuase i never really met any one gay in my life and it hard to find gay socail groups but any one around my age insterted in talking or getting to gether contact me at coolkid111@live.co.uk

  6. emzo

    On July 19, 2009 at 7:11 am


    hey im a 17 year old gal in glasgow (les) there isnt anything for gays,lez,bi no way for meeting for me a new girl .. there isnt any clubs ..! if anyone in glasgow no,s were i could find these clubs n groups for under 18s contact me bling_emma@hotmail.co.uk

  7. Ahmed

    On July 29, 2009 at 10:54 am


    I am from blackburn, u.k and i am 15 finding hard to find gay people

  8. Richie

    On September 26, 2009 at 3:13 am


    if anybodys from philly email me or add me on myspace. i always wanted a boyfriend!!!!!!!!!!!

    http://www.myspace.com/jaxjagsyo

  9. Luke

    On October 5, 2009 at 3:52 pm


    im 14 living in chesterfield, england and i hav never met anyone whos gay at school or anywhere and finding it really hard to find some1 so if ur interested in meeting up or chatting contact me lukebradfield@hotmail.com

  10. Reagan

    On November 6, 2009 at 8:53 pm


    Hi my name’s Reagan and I find it very difficult to find any decent gay people. I live in New South Wales, Australia. Any one from around Aus? I’m 15. Reagan.C@live.com.au

  11. tom

    On November 30, 2009 at 10:00 am


    hey
    im from hungary. im 17 and it is hard to find somebody. add me on msn or email me : tom19930301@hotmail.co.uk

    thx

  12. kashif

    On December 12, 2009 at 9:15 am


    hi Ahmwd 4rm blackburn.iam kashif 21 4rm pakistan. visit manjam.com. there u can find many pakistani gay guys with pics.u will hv to search by selecting the asian option. my email is, frendreal@yahoo.com. plz eamail me ur picture if u don,t mind.n ur cell number 4 a gud friendship.waiting 4 a positive response from u.

  13. Lucy

    On February 15, 2010 at 5:59 pm


    Hi I am a 12 year old girl am very passionate and looking for a girl 15 and under! I know I am a little young but I don’t think age matters! :) You can e-mail me at Duckzmaster@gmail.com. And as you can guess I am lesbian

  14. Gerald

    On April 14, 2010 at 6:54 am


    Im Gerald from Malaysia…is hard to find a underage gay here…but i hope some1 will see this and add me on msn

    jayex-a@hotmail.com

    any1 from any where

  15. segendo gerald

    On May 23, 2010 at 2:56 pm


    hi people, its nice to share thoughts and feelings. well am a ugandan aged 18, reach me on sgndgerald2000@gmail.com

  16. Evan

    On September 6, 2010 at 10:21 pm


    Well I am bi and my school everyone seems to hate gays… My parents DEFFENTLY would not tolerate anyone in their fam being gay/bi….. I live in Kansas close to eldorado…. If anyone nos anyone or whatever my email is nave.101@hotmail.com just put evan in the subject box oh by the way I am 17

  17. Hana

    On October 1, 2010 at 5:11 pm


    Im Hana from Dorset and im gay, im finding it really hard to meet anyone my age or older whos a lesbain. I’ve been on a few sites but theres never any girls on the sites, my mum doesnt like the idea of gay people and is always ranting on about how digusting they are (she strongly believes in god). If anyone knows of any sites that there is women on please lt me know cos i really would like to meet some one. Im 17 btw.

  18. John

    On October 13, 2010 at 4:42 pm


    heyy,
    this is john.. im 16 and actively looking for a mate in sheffield who is around my age.. if anyone is interested, please email me at angelsallover@gmail.com..
    pics are welcome..

  19. Tom

    On October 26, 2010 at 9:24 pm


    Hey I’m Tom. I’m 14
    I’m from Wigan. (-basicly manchester ))
    I’m looking for a boy to meet and just see and have a good time with! Email me ( any age!!! )
    ttsn95@googlemail.com

  20. chloe

    On October 27, 2010 at 11:18 pm


    heyy i wanna be a lebion but no 1 would iv me email me at chloe-smith98@hotmail.co.uk xx

  21. Sandra

    On November 4, 2010 at 5:50 pm


    I’m a 15 yr old lesbian and as far as I know there are no clubs for young people like me :( I am also in a Catholic school which doesn’t help and most of the school is very judgemental and think gay people are disgusting :(

  22. nico333

    On December 12, 2010 at 1:37 pm


    add me nico333@live.it i’m 16 italy

  23. Christine

    On December 15, 2010 at 5:15 pm


    hi, my name is Catie, i live in maryland, united states, i’m looking for a girl 17 & under. any age, email me, cneimiller@yahoo.com

  24. kirsty

    On December 19, 2010 at 4:24 pm


    Hi my names kirsty and i live in luton im bisexual and cant find any groups anywhere and hard 2 find people round my age that are bisexual or gay and im getting very frustrated now :( so any 1 from or near luton mail me or add me on msn or even facebook lol kirsty_orchard@msn.com xxx

  25. Dragon

    On January 3, 2011 at 12:20 pm


    I’m 17 and pleasea contact me dragon.fury.7@gmail.com

  26. lb1

    On January 9, 2011 at 6:46 am


  27. Faith

    On January 9, 2011 at 6:05 pm


    Hiya My Names Faith And Im Looking For Sites For 18- But Its Very Hard Email Me eminemxisxmyxidol@yahoo.com

  28. Joe

    On February 12, 2011 at 5:45 pm


    I’m Joe 15 from northeast of England email us if ur gay like me

  29. Joe

    On February 12, 2011 at 5:46 pm


    By the way my email is joseph14wilkinson@gmail.com
    Sorry missed that part off

  30. ross

    On February 13, 2011 at 9:58 pm


    Hi I’m Ross I’m gay from London would like to meet some ppl up for some fun maybe more. Age 17 ross40@msn.com

  31. Rupert Courtenay-Wilson

    On February 21, 2011 at 6:27 pm


    Hi, I’m Rupert, from Norfolk in England, I live near Kings Lynn and Norwich
    I don’t know any other gay teens, which totally sucks. I would love to meet
    some other gay people. I’m Age 15 (nearly 16)

    rupert95@hotmail.co.uk

  32. Tender

    On March 17, 2011 at 6:08 am


    Hey im bi curious and trying to experience things for the first time im a guy add my email tender12a@yahoo.com if your in california

  33. Jade

    On March 21, 2011 at 3:00 pm


    hey dudes!
    im Jade 14 and im gay, i find it really hard to talk to people and especially living in london there are soo many homophobes its unbelievable! so add me fierce_babe@hotmail.co.uk

  34. Help

    On April 6, 2011 at 12:01 am


    I am under 18 I am 13 and I am looking for another gay male from 13-14 I am really open email is g_ronaldinho@live.ca

  35. Help

    On April 6, 2011 at 12:01 am


    I am under 18 I am 13 and I am looking for another gay male from 13-14 I am really open email is g_ronaldinho@live.ca

  36. Ben

    On April 11, 2011 at 5:39 am


    Hi my names Ben and I am 16. I want to meet any gay between 14-17 in my area (woodbridge, bury st edmunds area or in Rutland) or just talk to anyone my age and gay. My email adress is mqishtti@gmail.co.uk. Email me.

  37. Ben

    On April 11, 2011 at 6:07 am


    Sorry just realised I got my email wrong it actually ends in .com not .co.uk

  38. Moon and stars

    On April 12, 2011 at 11:46 pm


    Hi! Am a girl named melissa(greek for \”bee\”) and i am bicurious. If any girl is interested, my e-mail is: eckert.melissa@gmail.com

    I live in santa fe new mexico(USA). I would love to meet another girl who feels the same. Thanks! :)

  39. george

    On July 10, 2011 at 12:35 pm


    sorry, its .com not .co.uk :)

  40. Tammy

    On August 21, 2011 at 11:36 am


    hi my name is tammy and im bi- curious plz msg at snufflesbaby@hotmail.com if interested i live in canada

  41. Kyle

    On August 23, 2011 at 1:15 pm


    hey my name is Kyle i live outside Glasgow in South Lanarkshier and i’m 15 i would love 2 meet some1 or for someone to help me find a websit that lets people my age fined some1. kd_musicmad96@hotmail.co.uk if you are intrested or know anything

  42. Lewis

    On October 6, 2011 at 8:42 am


    hey I’m lewis,- 15, i live near Geelong in Australia, I’d love to meet someone near me just for fun :)
    lewiss_123@yahoo.com.au

  43. Kenneth

    On October 18, 2011 at 2:14 pm


    I’m 15 (16 i December) and I live in Namsos, Norway.. I’m kinda keeping the fact that I’m gay a secret because I’ve been made fun of for being feminine since 3 grade.
    But I really want a relationship, so if any1 from Namsos, or maybe Norway in general could e-mail me, or something :P (not msn, because my Pc’ won’t allow me to download it.. :P )
    I’m not looking for sex or anything like that, I just want to be in a relationship :P
    I’d appreciate any mail, if your not interested, then it’s ok. but it would be good to talk about it … It’s not very easy to find other gay people here in Namsos, eventhough it’s supposed to be a big gay-community at my school, I don’t find anyone … :P

    e-mail: asshole.moron@hotmail.com
    (sorry about the E-mail… a friend of mine created it for me, and she thought she was funny :P )

  44. Kenneth

    On October 18, 2011 at 2:15 pm


    sorry about the long comment … ^^;

  45. dean!!!

    On October 25, 2011 at 2:39 pm


    I’m 16 male white and I’m from south africa joburg benoni and it difficult 4 me to meet people as I go to home school so like I don’t know any one here and I’ve met some gay people but like I haven’t got any physical attractions to them so it hard 4 me to fin some one and I’m very. Self conscious about my self as when I was younger gained a lot of weight and now trying to loose it. So I’m trying to get my life on track and it not easy 4 me so any suggestions email me at tj.jackson222@gmail.com

  46. Aman

    On November 24, 2011 at 12:44 am


    hiii
    i m 15 years & i m from nagpur anyone is intrested please call me
    8698919668 or email me at aman.rathor9@gmail.com

  47. Aman

    On November 24, 2011 at 12:53 am


    sorry its not aman.rathor9.com its rathore.aman9@gmail.com india

  48. aida

    On December 14, 2011 at 1:05 am


    hi!
    i m 17 years old & lives in sri lanka. i never had met any other lesbian. i m not out for anybody yet course i don’t know what type of feelings others would have on me. in my area homosexuality is sth like they may never had heard of before. so i really need a good friend to talk with. my email is aida.marisah@gmail.com

  49. Ashley

    On December 19, 2011 at 12:44 am


    hi im 13 years old bysexual im in the Independence,Missouri area if any girl wants to hook up im down just be under 18 u can find me on facebook

  50. Francis

    On December 19, 2011 at 12:57 am


    hi im bysexual and live in the Independence,Missouri area if u want to hook up some time with me another want hook contact me on facebook under the name Francis GummyBear. the send me a message if ur another girl.Im 13 years old

  51. Jen

    On December 26, 2011 at 7:25 pm


    Hey im bi/lesbian and im 13 in march anyone around my age that would like to talk to me email me at Jenleon88@yahoo.com

  52. mike

    On January 2, 2012 at 9:18 am


    hi im gay in london
    email me
    bazar-kul@hotmail.co.uk

  53. Mark Hall

    On January 8, 2012 at 3:29 pm


    Hi im 13 and gay, i live in new york and i kind of want to have sex. If anyone is interested we can swap pics over email or something. Please email me at markhallabc@yahoo.com

  54. massy

    On January 12, 2012 at 12:38 pm


    hello i’m 16 i’m italy i’m bsx add me for cam 2 cam!! new_msn_boy_94@hotmail.it

  55. Elise

    On January 14, 2012 at 1:18 pm


    hi im 14 and looking for a girl in Southampton who will go out and be a girlfriend with me? >_< wanna ask me out then add me on facebook or msn is eliseheatherbailey@hotmail.co.uk

    thank

  56. Can (don't read like in English)

    On February 7, 2012 at 3:53 pm


    Hi! I’m 14 and from Istanbul. I looking for 14-15 years old guys. If you wanna contact with me add zendaya.zaz@hotmail.com on MSN Messenger.

  57. Hayley

    On February 15, 2012 at 2:27 am


    Im hayley, i live in Florida (U. S. A) i am 17missing and looking for someone 15-19. Im an average build and very funny. Puddycat717@yahoo.com

  58. shannice

    On September 19, 2012 at 5:22 pm


    Hi im shan and i live in london and im bi but tired of boys -_- if yur bi too e-mail me and maybe we could get to know each other :) shannicebrown@msn.com

  59. Robert Gay jst turned 16 Glasgox

    On October 6, 2012 at 9:30 am


    Hello i’m a 16 yo boy from Glasgow looking for someone to talk, meet with if you’re interested and live near by mail me at Robertmeikle166@gmail.com

  60. Marlies

    On December 28, 2012 at 4:44 am


    Iam 17 looking or anything I mod from up noth where being gay wasn’t a big deal being out in the open and not in the closet to moving with out my parents and he people I stay with don’t like gays . And so I have to keep in the closet but I hate it and I can’t find any one who is like me here I can’t go to RRC in Winnipeg because I am not aloud to drive in the city but there are no one around here I am confused and wanting to find any one please tell me what I can do

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  66. Nathaniel Driscoll

    On February 9, 2013 at 1:15 am


    Hi!!
    I’m a 15 year old almost 16 and I live in northern Colorado. Everyone here is not a fan of gay people and it is hard to find a boyfriend. I’m lonely so if you know anyone willing to hang out with me email me at Nathaniel_driscoll_8@msn.com.

  67. Nathaniel Driscoll

    On February 9, 2013 at 1:16 am


    Hi!!
    I’m a 15 year old almost 16 and I live in northern Colorado. Everyone here is not a fan of gay people and it is hard to find a boyfriend. I’m lonely so if you know anyone willing to hang out with me, email me at Nathaniel_driscoll_8@msn.com.

  68. Nathaniel Driscoll

    On February 9, 2013 at 1:16 am


    Hi!!
    Im a 15 year old almost 16 and I live in northern Colorado. Everyone here is not a fan of gay people and it is hard to find a boyfriend. Im lonely so if you know anyone willing to hang out with me, email me at Nathaniel_driscoll_8@msn.com.

  69. Nathaniel Driscoll

    On February 9, 2013 at 1:18 am


    Im a 15 year old almost 16 and I live in northern Colorado. Everyone here is not a fan of gay people and it is hard to find a boyfriend. Im lonely so if you know anyone willing to hang out with me, email me at Nathaniel_driscoll_8@msn.com.

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