After The Affair

Since everyone is poking at Tiger Woods’ affair, I thought I would take a minute to write about what happens after the affair. Two years ago, I realized that my significant other was behaving differently. He didn’t have as much time for me. He told me he’d call and then didn’t. The biggest hurtful thing that I discovered was via his social networking page. One of his “friends” had a photo of themselves half naked and laying on my boyfriend’s bed. I questioned him about it. I slept in that same bed the night before I discovered it. It was a very hurtful moment.

Despite everything that I knew about the situation, he denied everything. My final straw was that we had plans the Saturday before Easter Sunday and he didn’t even call me to cancel the plans. He just ignored my phone calls. I drove to his apartment Easter Sunday night and knocked on his apartment door. No one answered. I called his cellphone. I heard it ringing inside his apartment. I believed he was in the apartment, however no one came to the door. I gave up and left a message on his cellphone. Later, the girl, admitted they were inside the apartment together. They watched me walk to my car.

The following day, he returned my call. He yelled at me and told me about how he’d gotten sick and his parents took him to the hospital over the weekend. He’d left his cellphone in the apartment. His parents left his lights and TV on so no one would break in. Can you imagine the nerve? To tell such a lie!

Not being entirely stupid, as soon as I saw the girl’s profile on the social networking site, I created a fake account. I pretended to be a male suitor and she immediately gave me her phone number. I saved it until I needed it. I called and asked if she knew my boyfriend. I used his name when asking. I informed her that I was seeing him as well. The most astounding thing to me was that she knew about me. It didn’t bother her that the guy she was seeing had another girlfriend. To her, it was okay that he was sleeping with the both of us.

Gross!

I broke up with my boyfriend. He continued to see this girl, but he tried to call me while he was seeing her. I wouldn’t take his calls at all. Whenever she had problems with him, because he started seeing someone else behind HER back, she would call me. She got what she deserved! He used her and left her!

An affair is devastating. You wonder “What’s wrong with ME?” “What are THEY doing that I’M not?”"Does he love this person?” “How long has this been going on?” The saddest part, is that we beat ourselves up and blame ourselves when in reality, the blame falls on them. How sad is it that a grown man would jeopardize his significant other, his wife and his family just to have sex with another human being? The humiliation is deserved. Being cheated on damages people. Its a pain that you really don’t forget.