Comments on: Alone at Christmas? Exploring the Holiday Taboo http://socyberty.com/holidays/alone-at-christmas-exploring-the-holiday-taboo/ Mon, 20 Feb 2012 05:18:28 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Holi http://socyberty.com/holidays/alone-at-christmas-exploring-the-holiday-taboo/comment-page-1/#comment-207983 Holi Mon, 14 Dec 2009 00:34:42 +0000 http://socyberty.com/holidays/alone-at-christmas-exploring-the-holiday-taboo/#comment-207983 Good article & I enjoyed your writing style, but I also agree with the previous comment. Being alone for the holidays once or twice in your life is ok, it might even be fun, but if it becomes a recurring theme in your life, it is a very big problem. As sentient beings we need to be needed -- to know that we matter to someone. If you are alone for the holidays, repeatedly, the message is that you don't actually matter to anyone, and that is devastating. If that is the case, it is essential to reach out and connect with people who need you as much as you need them. Whether you have no family or are simply missing a vital relationship in your extended family circle, a more complete extended family will provide you with a more powerful support system. There is a new service that matches adults to create surrogate extended families. Try CreatingExtendedFamilies.com Good article & I enjoyed your writing style, but I also agree with the previous comment.

Being alone for the holidays once or twice in your life is ok, it might even be fun, but if it becomes a recurring theme in your life, it is a very big problem. As sentient beings we need to be needed — to know that we matter to someone. If you are alone for the holidays, repeatedly, the message is that you don’t actually matter to anyone, and that is devastating.

If that is the case, it is essential to reach out and connect with people who need you as much as you need them. Whether you have no family or are simply missing a vital relationship in your extended family circle, a more complete extended family will provide you with a more powerful support system.

There is a new service that matches adults to create surrogate extended families.

Try CreatingExtendedFamilies.com

]]> By: B http://socyberty.com/holidays/alone-at-christmas-exploring-the-holiday-taboo/comment-page-1/#comment-190490 B Fri, 13 Nov 2009 14:06:49 +0000 http://socyberty.com/holidays/alone-at-christmas-exploring-the-holiday-taboo/#comment-190490 Your experience of being alone at Christmas is representative of turning the proverbial \'negative experience into a positive one\', and is a message that it needn\'t be all doom & gloom at Christmas. By the sounds of things however, it would appear that this is probably the first time that you have been on your own at that time of the year, and being able to please yourself and doing your own thing was a welcome change to years gone by. There are some of us who live on their own and spend every day doing their own thing and pleasing themselves, and would love nothing more than to experience what it is like to be with other people at Christmas, not to mention having someone special to share it with. Your experience of being alone at Christmas is representative of turning the proverbial \’negative experience into a positive one\’, and is a message that it needn\’t be all doom & gloom at Christmas.

By the sounds of things however, it would appear that this is probably the first time that you have been on your own at that time of the year, and being able to please yourself and doing your own thing was a welcome change to years gone by.

There are some of us who live on their own and spend every day doing their own thing and pleasing themselves, and would love nothing more than to experience what it is like to be with other people at Christmas, not to mention having someone special to share it with.

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