Enjoying Christmas and Holidays as a Single Person

It really burns me up that folks think that all single people are sitting around depressed and in need of comfort for Christmas and holidays.  Well, not really burned up, but, a little miffed.  First of all, if you find a person who is depressed on Christmas day, more than likely, they were depressed on Christmas Eve, a few weeks before Christmas, and even, a month before Christmas.

There are a number of reasons that a person may be unhappy around the holidays.  I can remember the first Christmases I spent after my parents died.  I can’t say that I was depressed, but, I was missing them on each occasion.  As Christmases go on, there are other situations that effect how I feel on particular holidays.  For example, I always will remember that my father died on Valentine’s Day, and I never got to give him the card I bought for him, but, that does not keep me from enjoying this day.  The incidents are not related, except that he was called him home on this day.  So, if I was going to let a holiday depress me, it would probably be that one.  But, no.  I enjoy most holidays.  Unfortunately, I sometimes miss Easter, because it moves around.  By the time I realize that it’s Easter Sunday, it’s almost over.  I do, however, enjoy that a lot of candy goes on sale in the days to follow.  

For me, personally, holidays are just another day to feel grateful that one is alive.  If you find yourself depressed around the holidays, examine how you feel all of the other days of the year; I am certain, you feel just about the same.  After losing a loved one, whether it’s by death or a break up, there is a normal grieving period, however, some people fall deeper and stay in the grips of grief longer than others.  

I can remember one day, a guy walked up to me at work and said, ‘You never smile.’  I was shocked, because that just wasn’t a true assessment of my personality, until I thought about it.  I hadn’t been finding much to smile about in the months following my mother’s death, and this was nearly a year later.  From that day forward, I made up my mind to work on getting on with life.  It wasn’t automatic, but, I appreciated that he cared enough to point it out to me, even though, he didn’t know me that well.  

Enjoying Christmas and the holidays, as a single, is just like enjoying any other day.  Just do it.  Stop waiting on divine intervention.  You can decide to have joy in the face of your trials and adversities; single or not.  I must add that if you suffer from depression for a long period of time, it may be wise to go to the doctor to rule out other problems.  

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