Holiday Anxiety

Cut back on the Christmas lights and it will save some money on the power.  We used to light up our whole house.  Now we put our tree up and have lights on that.  We love Christmas lights and will drive through neighborhoods looking at all of the beautiful houses.  Hopefully we will be able to put up lights next year, but for now we will be happy to see other light displays.

Shop for gifts at stores that offer the same products and quality but at a much cheaper price.   In our area we shop at department stores like Ross and Tuesdays.  There are a few of the larger chain stores that offer excellent prices also. 

One of the things I have liked doing is finding small wooden display shelves and refinishing  or painting them to match the color scheme of someone’s home.  When you give a gift like this it means more to the receiver because they know you have put some time and thought into the gift. If you start to feel anxious or frustrated try talking to a close family member or friend.  Even without the tough economy it isn’t unusual for people to feel depressed during the holidays.  Reasons for depression could be that a love one died during this time of year or too much pressure is being felt to make the holidays perfect.  You cannot have perfect holidays but you can have wonderful holidays.  The holidays aren’t about how much money you spend, they are about the kindness and love you can show to your family and friends.  This is a good time of year to invite your neighbors over for coffee or tea.  It doesn’t have to be a party, but a lovely visit.

Before you go out to do the actual holiday shopping, be sure to set yourself a budget.  Be sure to stick to that budget when you are in the store.  I make a list of what I will be looking for and then I will keep it in my hand or where I can easily refer to it.  This helps keep me focused on what my goals are.  Sometimes you an even find some things on sale which will help you save even more money.

It’s o.k. to say no when you are stressed out.  Sometimes there seems to be so much to do when getting ready for the holidays.  Don’t be afraid to say no when you need to.  If someone asks you to bring a special dish to a meal and you would rather bring something else, ask them if there’s a compromise.  Let them know you would rather bring a different dish. 

Try to relax a little during the holidays.  When you do go to a gathering try to put your differences aside when you run into someone that you don’t get along with.  Keep reminding yourself that you can leave anytime you want and it’s your choice to be there, so why not make it pleasing. 

Have a wonderful time during the holidays by staying within your spending limits, getting out to visit friends and family, and having friends and family visit you. Most importantly set aside some time for you to unwind and be thankful.