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Holiday Loneliness

A few tips to stay preoccupied while sharing the holidays with loneliness.

Though I typically fail to participate in rejoicing, caroling, or even practicing traditional Christmas customs, the season still remains an unpleasant experience for the uninvolved. Initially, I embraced the holiday spirit and engaged in joyous activities; however, the latter years consisted primarily of a chair and a bottle of whiskey surrounded by four depressing walls. Service members stationed overseas, as I previously was, are especially limited to family interaction and enjoying Christmas traditions they have become accustomed to. Let’s face it! Though tis the season responsible for increased tension and stress, one valuable day separates months of anxiety and momentarily allows family and friends to share a wonderful, compassionate experience.

Obviously, better answers suit a question not concerning alcoholic depression. Though a drunken stupor did provide relief and hastened an otherwise discriminating day, it neglected emotional support and a positive atmosphere. As I failed to enact, I now acknowledge minor hobbies to prevent excessive loneliness and negative attitudes.

Firstly, hiding secretly among negative influences will not offer encouragement nor relief. By interacting among others similar to yourself, you are less likely to feel completely alone. Of course, the substitute will simply offer temporary accommodations and not likely equate or compare to family. Fortunately, it will moderately relieve any additional restraint on the emotions. For those dwelling in or around the city, public restaurants and bars may provide shelter and friendly faces. If a friend or acquaintance extends a gathering such as dinner or drinks, accept the generous offer and indulge in small talk or other festivities.

Unfortunately, not everyone will be afforded the luxurious relationships among friends, family, etc. This, too, ensures a more difficult hardship. Before the drinks began to pour on such an eve, I would casually proceed upon my daily routine and stray from holiday traditions. My own personality desires negative emotions, and participating in my own holiday related activities would simply obstruct matters more profoundly. Instead, I act accordingly and refuse to do otherwise. Hobbies that I engage on any normal basis are similarly enacted as I tour the World Wide Web or utilize my game consoles. Customary activities such as these do not remind me of previously experienced joy, and therefore prevent longing for such. To conclude my advice, settling for company will typically prove the best choice. However, for those in less fortunate situations, I advise you to enforce the same, dreaded routine that always occupies the premises.

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  1. AlmaG

    On December 11, 2009 at 7:52 am


    A simple christmas dinner with my family would be okay for me :)

  2. HoliHelp

    On December 14, 2009 at 11:40 pm


    Good article. The most important thing is to first create as positive of a mental attitude as possible, because without that you won’t get anywhere. And again you are right that in person, face to face, companionship is the best thing you can do, even if the relationships are new and tenuous.

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  3. Francois Hagnere

    On December 26, 2009 at 4:28 pm


    Great post. I see what you mean. Believe me sometimes it is better to be alone than in bad company! (lol). Thank you for sharing.

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