How to Love Your Lover During The Holidays
by Some tips from a layman. You might want a second opinion.
image via wikipedia
The holidays can be stressful enough but when you’re in a relationship it can be a hair-pulling time. How big should the Christmas gift be…or how small? Am I supposed to meet the family? It may be a matter of how serious the dating has become. If there’s no date scheduled for the remainder of this month, skip the gift–a nice Ecard will do. However, if you do plan to give a present the other person should know in advance. Tip: if you get an unexpected gift, accept it graciously but do not run right out and buy something in return. It’s just a bad idea. The message has already been received. Don’t amplify it.
If the relationship is not serious–in other words if one or both are seeing others–skip dinner with your date’s family. That tends to send a false signal to all concerned. Be polite and say you have other plans…maybe next year.
What if you get a gift from your someone special and you don’t like it. Can you dump it? Yes. It’s your and you can sell it, give it away or throw it away but beware. If the relationship is new and you want it to continue, perhaps improve on it, hang on to the gift for awhile. It missed the mark. Big deal. At least the sentiment was there. Next time, drop some hints like what store you like or what fragrance pleases you.
Guys, be very careful about buying lingerie for you sweetie. If you’re not already in a sexual relationship you’re sending too loud of a message…taking gift-giving to a level much too high for the state of the relationship. A sexy gift will make her feel pressured and could drive a wedge between the two of you. If you have been intimate how do you know for certain what she wants in the way of frilly stuff. Give her a gift card, then go along to the lingerie shop with her. Now there’s a fun, romantic outing that should make for a happy holiday for both of you.
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Post CommentAlmaG
On December 19, 2009 at 8:51 am
So being single is an advantage… no gifts to buy, no money to spend, no lingerie to worry
Jane Jane
On December 19, 2009 at 9:37 am
I agree with almaG.
lillyrose
On December 19, 2009 at 9:38 am
great one Ken! I would love sexy lingerie but my hubby hates it? and is to inpatient to have to ‘unwrap’ his gift!
lillyrose
On December 19, 2009 at 9:40 am
I am getting Ram and an updated version of word!! LOL…its all good, I got a lovely wheel barrow from my boss a few years ago, well I was mucking out 7 stables a day!
johnnydod
On December 19, 2009 at 9:47 am
Well I got to take note of these Ken thanks
K.Reshma
On December 19, 2009 at 10:02 am
I do agree with almaG
Melody SJAL
On December 19, 2009 at 10:39 am
Truly an enjoyable read, Ken.
deep blue
On December 19, 2009 at 11:05 am
A nice advice from a man who had it all once but gave it up to write the experience. For all I know it would be hard to keep the experience and write about it (kidding). The WWF ad keeps bugging me to adopt a penguin, well I suppose not a bad pet to dress up with the most lovely lingerie for Christmas.
Cheers,
Will
jengriver
On December 19, 2009 at 11:29 am
Good piece of advice!”Guys, be very careful about buying lingerie for your sweetie”……….
Christine Ramsay
On December 19, 2009 at 11:40 am
A great piece of advice, Ken. I have always hated being given lingerie. For some reason you are supposed to wear sexy lingerie because your man likes it. I prefer the good serviceable stuff any day. Lol.
Christine
Reilley
On December 19, 2009 at 12:15 pm
The joys of Christmas are not to those to whom gifts are given, but to the giver.
Great advice about keeping a level head.
jaysonv
On December 19, 2009 at 12:16 pm
Great piece..
Uma Shankari
On December 19, 2009 at 1:07 pm
Impressed with your ‘expertease’.
ceegirl
On December 19, 2009 at 1:15 pm
Very nice poet.
Marie Antoinette
On December 19, 2009 at 1:29 pm
After 22 years of marriage, I think I’ ve seen plenty … but lingerie always sounds good, so does perfume and “girl stuff”. He probably would want a car, a boy toy or more tools … why?
LoveDoctorGoodBye
On December 19, 2009 at 2:17 pm
Great article about the etiquettes of love and dating. Good tip: If you don’t see your date for the remainder of the month, then no gift. A lot of guys will disappear around the holidays because of their fear of meeting the family and commitment issues. What if you don’t know that your partner is seeing others? Some guys are very secretive about things like these. I usually buy one gift something nice but not expensive and he gets one gift. Some girls go crazy buying gifts and expensive colognes. I don’t buy colognes anymore since I’ve had bad experiences in the past.
PhoenixRox
On December 19, 2009 at 2:28 pm
Very good suggestions and I always love to read what Marlene has to say.
sandie
On December 19, 2009 at 2:30 pm
i have never had any problems with a gift to worry about what to do with it, you must have people who hate you ken lol!
Sheila M
On December 19, 2009 at 2:45 pm
I\’ll have to disagree with some of that…but that\’s just me. An e-card? No way. I don\’t care how un serious it is an e-card definitely solidifies that sentiment. lol How about the Burger King dollar card? For all those 3rd and 4th rate people on your list LOL
qasimdharamsy
On December 19, 2009 at 3:09 pm
Very Nice….
Val Mills
On December 19, 2009 at 3:30 pm
I remember my mother having a drawer full of lingerie that had been bought Christmas after Christmas
Gift giving is so difficult these days, isn’t it. People have too much money to spend!
cutedrishti8
On December 19, 2009 at 3:49 pm
Wonderful post Sir Ken…
Lady Sunshine
On December 19, 2009 at 3:59 pm
What the hell is a layman doing giving advice on relationships? Just kidding! lol. You keep surprising me, Ken.
Papa Sparks
On December 19, 2009 at 4:40 pm
Lingerie can definitely get a guy in trouble. Reminds me of that scene from Working Girl.
Best wishes to you and your loved ones this holiday season Ken. Have a very Merry Christmas my friend.
I am on my way to Laos tomorrow to be with my with my family for the holidays.
I hope the holidays are filled with much warmth, happiness, and blessings for you and your loved ones.
Goodselfme
On December 19, 2009 at 4:52 pm
Smart post with great ideas!
Guy Hogan
On December 19, 2009 at 5:07 pm
I’m not much of a gift giver which means I don’t get gifts, either.
Teves
On December 19, 2009 at 6:25 pm
Thanks for this…
standingproud
On December 19, 2009 at 8:43 pm
lingerie,mmmm give to me any time,I will not feel pressured one bit..
and take me out for meal,I want the lot,hahahaha.
But a nice evening in with a movie and great company works as well.
I did enjoy your other handy tips,thanks so much for being wise.
nsmukundan
On December 19, 2009 at 9:51 pm
I completely agree with you…My best wishes to U.
drelayaraja
On December 19, 2009 at 10:32 pm
WONDERFUL IDEA
PR Mace
On December 19, 2009 at 10:40 pm
Fun post with some good advice. You rock, Ken.
Shirley Shuler
On December 19, 2009 at 11:14 pm
LOL, Ken. I enjoyed this post very much!
Mr Ghaz
On December 20, 2009 at 5:56 am
very creative post! liked it! cheers
Jenny Heart
On December 20, 2009 at 6:01 am
Wise advice!
Aiyanna
On December 20, 2009 at 6:02 am
Very nice article, thank you for sharing this!!!
Daisy Peasblossom
On December 20, 2009 at 7:15 am
Excellent tips, Ken. I hear the voice of experience in the background there.
Ruby Hawk
On December 20, 2009 at 11:01 pm
Ken, that is perfect advise for all the guys, not too bad for the girls either.
wonder
On December 21, 2009 at 1:53 am
Goes a long way in building up a good personality.Answers so many questions.
Lord Banks
On December 21, 2009 at 7:27 am
I almost blushed then Ken-ster (not) good tips and a good write as usual.
pearl2010
On December 21, 2009 at 3:30 pm
Great advice.Thanks for sharing
thuanynguyen
On December 23, 2009 at 4:30 am
wow i like this! great write.