Single Black Christian Woman Chronicles Day 21

Hey everybody! I know it’s been awhile since I’ve written but I needed to take some time to refocus on some personal stuff. Now that I’m back I’d like to talk about love. Speaking of which…

Valentine’s Day can be hard for singles. Even with the support of community and loving family members, sometimes feelings of loneliness creep up and ambush us from behind. So if you’re finding yourself in that post V-day slump, I have some encouragement for you. Think of this as a contented single woman pep-talk! 

First, you are not alone. I mean that in more ways than one. You are not alone in feeling alone and more importantly you are not alone because God is living with you (closer than your breath as one song says). When I notice loneliness tip-toeing around my corner I ask God to increase my awareness of Him. I ask Him to hold me, talk to me, let me hear His song over me. Ladies let me tell you, there is nothing like being in the arms of God. He’s the only one who will hold you securely and never let you go, even when you slip up. So if you’re feeling lonely try this: get into your worship zone; just you and Daddy and tell him honestly everything in your heart. Watch Him be almighty enough to fix it for you. I can tell you first hand, He’s been big enough to fix it for me every time.

Loneliness is just one issue. What about that strong desire to be in a relationship? It seems to spike every February. Have you noticed? That increasing insistent knocking simultaneously in your brain and heart saying, “Get a boy-friend STAT!”  It can be hard when seemingly everyone around us is in a relationship and sitcoms and commercials are displaying elaborate scenes of well planned marriage proposals and epic weddings. How’s a gal to be content? I once asked my pastor this question and I will never forget her answer. She said you have to chose to be content and she’s right. I had a meltdown-moment in this area and one of my good friends sent me a text reminding me that I am a “successful content single woman.” Her words jolted me back to reality. I am. And guess what? So are you, if you chose to be. Sometimes it’s just as easy as a choice. You tell yourself that when it’s time, Daddy’s got you covered and just sit back, relax, and stop donning those “Is he The One” goggles whenever a fine brotha walks by. You know what I’m talking about! 

I hope this pep-talk helps you spring out of your post V-day slump if you’re in one. Remember, there is nothing wrong with being single despite what family, friends, and media may say. God’s got a plan for you and He will see it through to completion. In the mean time, handle the business God gave you in His Kingdom. Trust me, it’ll be worth your while.

 I’ll leave you with this one today. Till next time!

Jeremiah 29:11-13 (NIV) “ For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.  Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listento you.  You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”

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