Valentines Day Blues

Valentine’s Day has to be the most pointless holiday ever. What’s the point to picking one day to show someone we truly care about them, one day of three hundred sixty-five? If someone truly cared about another person, they would treat them like everyday was Valentine’s Day. Not saying that everyday you should run out and buy a present for your sweetheart, but choosing a day, forcing people to care about someone demotes the value of the moment.

People say that if you don’t have someone on Valentine’s Day, you’re not as special as others that do. For example, some girls communicate the idea that “All I want is you for Valentine’s Day” not realizing that guys take it at face value. If you say it, mean it. When the day comes, you can’t turn on us and be mad when the gifts don’t arrive. This “special day” only creates more drama for guys. Some boyfriends even feel inclined to break up with their girlfriends before Valentine’s Day to avoid such drama.

If you really want to make the one you love happy, do it everyday. Valentine’s Day is Hallmark’s self-made holiday, a time to sell all the cards and flowers and little plush teddy bears holding hearts to unsuspecting lovers. They don’t care about them, because chances are they won’t be together next year anyway.

The way I see it, men shouldn’t pick a day to show their affection to women; and women shouldn’t expect there to be a day set aside for the guys to show affection for them. Take my advice and prove you love them everyday. If you truly care about your relationship, both parties will benefit from a daily dose better than a shot in the dark. For us, as people, to choose a date on something we consider as volatile, precious and important as a relationship borders on insanity.

Most relationships don’t begin on Valentine’s Day, so why should that be when we celebrate love? Isn’t that what anniversaries are for? It seems that all that adding a “day for love” does is get guys into trouble because they never get “the perfect gift”. I have nothing against relationships. Choosing when you will like someone is where the problem lies. Commercializing the feeling with love is wrong.

When Valentine’s Day first began it wasn’t about buying diamond earrings at Tiffany’s. It was about showing affection, not buying it with the size of your wallet. So are poor people inadequate during this holiday? After all. love isn’t all stuff right? Or has it become commercialized to that point as well? This is what makes many males shiver at the approach of the dreaded February 14th. What would St. Valentine say?

Even the history of Valentines Day is unknown to a full extent. There are three stories of how it came to be. All of which finish with one very gory ending, the death of St. Valentine. So we celebrate about a man who died, by showing other people we love them. Sounds like the story of Easter but with three stories. Other holidays have one central story and reason. However, the most romantic holiday has the most unknown holiday story. Something smells here, and it’s not the lavender on the valentine you got.