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Why People Make Promises They Cannot and Won’t Keep?

It is far easier and cheaper to be yourself than to pretend to be someone else.
The paradox of such relationships is that the very claims and statements the liar made to cement the relationship will be the ones to disintegrate it.


         Have you ever met a man who makes promises or states an intention to do something and fails to come through when the time expires? Many times these men make outrageous claims and fail to live up to those promises.  Often times the female is aware that the man is lying and unreliable but waits to see if this time he will fall through with his claims. Only to be disappointed several times again.

                     I personally find the idea of lying and pretense very annoying and ludicrous.  I met a man once that claimed that he was very interested in me. He was trying every possible method to convince me that he had honorable intentions and that I should date him. He went to great lengths to impress me. I was wary of him because my instincts told me that the man was not genuine in his claims. He pursued me relentlessly to get my number. When I finally gave it to him, he could not proffer a single phone call.

                The last straw was promising a birthday present since my birthday was a week away. I did not solicit anything from him. I did not ask him to bequeath a present or attend my party.  He found out about my party and said he was going to give me a present.  He wanted to buy me an expensive gift and attend my party. I told him to do as he saw fit.

             The days prior to my birthday, he called every day.  When my birthday came I did not hear from him or see him. He did not resurface until a week after with some lame excuse about losing his phone and how his boss did not pay him, his salary.  I simply laughed and told him it was ok.

             The idea of a man making outrageous claims in order to get a woman to like him is simply foolish and speaks volumes of the self esteem of the individual. Some people claim that they misrepresent their intentions because they are afraid of disappointing you momentarily. But this claim is futile since the receiver will be disappointed in any essence because the giver has no intentions of carrying out the task. The individual makes an empty promise, fully aware of his inability to meet it and the fact that he will not do it. 

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  1. jaysonv

    On December 22, 2009 at 1:13 pm

    great post.. i like it.. Thanks friend.

  2. mkd1788

    On December 22, 2009 at 1:29 pm

    really great..very well written..

  3. seksijerk

    On December 22, 2009 at 3:08 pm

    honesty do not hold any value now

  4. Ruby Hawk

    On December 22, 2009 at 11:50 pm

    Men do it all the time. I believe they think it’s expected. Take every thing they say with a grain of salt. Some women are just as bad.

  5. cutedrishti8

    On December 23, 2009 at 10:55 am

    I agree with Ruby..

  6. PhoenixRox

    On December 23, 2009 at 2:25 pm

    I know a few men like this. But some women are as bad. These people hurt others and don’t seem to care. Great piece.

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