Are You Ambivalent?

To make things more clear, there are still many public and private officers and employees who have to hide their true feelings in order to carry on their daily routines. It is common sense that in the present day western cultures nobody accepts to be called racist, sexist or so on. When people asked about these behaviours in public they deny any such allegations. They have to say that they see everybody exactly the same and they do not discriminate anybody for racial origin, sexual orientation, disability, religion, colour of skin and so on. However, in private and non-official talks many people are the opposite; this may or may not appear in their acts or on their faces. The consequences of this may create more hate and less understanding towards the minority and marginalized groups and communities. The reasons behind that are various from legal, as it is against the law to discriminate people, moral, as it is shame to be racist, sexist or so on, cultural, as it is now part of the culture to be multicultural, tolerant and apply the magic of equal opportunities, at least in writing.

What would happen if people were allowed to express their feelings and thinking without being accused of sexism, racism or violating equal opportunities? In this case, it can be argued that they will have a safety valve to empty their inner depressed feelings and may act towards thinking about the acceptance and tolerance in a better way. Law must be created, enforced and respected, that is the starting point of any civic society. However, people should have a chance to learn and be educated at the same time as they have to be law abiding individuals. Individuals are human beings and it is part of their natural being to be suspicious and nervous about the stranger and any strange things comparing to their routine daily life, norms and traditions of their culture.

One may argue that women are equal to men in the western civilized countries. Comparing to the position of women in some of the eastern countries, they are perfectly equal! However, it can be argued that, if they were really equal they did not need women associations, women refuge and so many laws and orders to protect women from men. The ambivalent nature of this is that in the west people cannot discriminate women publicly as they are protected by law. At the same time there are many men who practice domestic violence against women and children behind closed doors in the same civilized western society. It is obvious that we do not expect everybody and everyone to abide law. However, those who break the law actually are just a small portion of a wider group who principally agree with them, but do not do the same for various reasons.

At the conclusion it can be argued that, society changes slowly, much slower than it is predicted. People are tied by different traditional, cultural and religious feelings and thoughts that are difficult to be eliminated by a change in law which is forced on them from above. At this age of globalization and mass availability of information many people may argue that society is perfect and we do not need any form of sociological study as it was the case in the previous centuries.
However, we should not ignore the ambivalent nature of our feelings and those vast legal, economical, social and cultural barriers which hide the true nature of the feelings of millions of people; i.e. ambivalence. We need courage and opportunity to express our real feelings and thoughts and a better social education and training to really accept the new laws and traditions.