Boundary Problems

Ever since I was little I have been going to church, the most difficult thing for me is when someone tells me I am going to hell for having sex before marriage. This is a tough issue because I know the truth about sex and what it does when you have sex before marriage. There is a reason god tells us not to do it. Every person we have sex with we leave a part of our selves with that person. The separation of church and state causes many people to become angry. Where is the separation of church and state?

Schools are not allowed to teach creation but they can teach evolution why is that. I struggle with what I believe sometimes. I believe god let us everything happen for a reason. I am not married but I enjoy sex before marriage. I recently have had someone I work with telling me I am going to hell. I know what I believe. There has to be a better way to get someone to turn to god then jamming it down there throat.

I have to be willing to make a change in myself a heart change as some of my friends call it. Ever since I was little, I have been addicted to sex. I was sexually abused as a child not by my family but by a baby sitter. My parents do not believe me. I have dealt with it and moved on. I just want people to love me for me. I want you to believe me when I say I love god and I know he has a plan for me. But I am not willing to give up this part of my life. Maybe someday I will be able to help other people with what I have gone through. I fully believe it starts with a lack of boundaries when we do not develop strong boundaries we are in serious dangerous of being taken advantage of. When someone wants you to do something, you do not feel comfortable with and you say yes because you are afraid of what they will think that is a problem. No one has a right to tell you how to feel. If someone gets upset because you say, no that is there problem and they are the ones who have the problem. One more example I have is when you were little and you did not want to eat a certain food but you were too young to speak and your parents said you are going to eat it and like it. What if you were allergic to that food? Your parents did not respect your boundaries. Children should not be afraid to say no. but they should also have a reason why they are saying no. I am asking you out of love to show more respect for other people’s boundaries.