Changing Roles in a Woman’s Life

Nothing can beat the way you feel as a young girl. You are the princess and the world is at your feet. Your parents adore you and you can do what you want. Under some restraints of course. But the fact is that you are free. Free to do what you want to. Free to study what you like. Free to visit the friends you want to. Free to play the sports you enjoy. Free to dance and sing the songs you like. Free to do what makes you feel good.

Then gradually the responsibilities begin building up. There comes the time when you need to do well in studies. Then you must excel in the co curricular activities that you participate in. You must be popular in the social circuits you move in. That means having friends is not enough, you need to have the right friends whom every one looks up to and approves of. If you mess up, your perfect world may come crashing down. That is something that you do not want happening.

Your life has got a bit complicated, but nothing compared to what it will be. Yes now is when the love interest shows up. The most complicated one is where your parents don’t approve, and the least complicated one is where your parents are trying to fix you up with some one. Then begins the tension of having to think as a couple rather than as an individual. Half the things you want to do get buried as he might not like to do it. You lose your single identity as you get clubbed into one half of a couple.

This isn’t too bad when you consider what comes next. Marriage and children. The kind of commitment and responsibilities this brings is not funny. Now you are not just wife and mother, you are super woman. Try as you like you will always have some pending jobs hanging on your head. The number of responsibilities increase with every passing day. There are food, clothes, school, home, cleaning up, social life, work and relationships all vying for your attention.

If by chance you do get half a second to yourself, you start thinking of all that needs to be done in the next few minutes. The relaxation and living for yourself are over. Now you live for everyone else. Your life is over. Its the last thing that matters. All things take precedence before you and your health. That is when it happens. The realization dawns on you that if you don’t think about yourself, no one else will. So you make a conscious decision to take time out for yourself. You again evolve. You grow as a person who has taken responsibility for herself first and then of all the others around her.

That is when your evolution as a woman is complete.