Dependency in Society

Dependent people make poor company eventually apart from the fact that they cling and need reassurance of their motives to do things. In a relationship one has to keep his identity alongside that of his partner otherwise you have an unhealthy relationship that deteriorates over time. The key is to be honest to yourself and look out for signs that show you are unable to make up you own mind consistently without your partner intervening on your behalf or that you constantly agree over a situation when questions are asked about your opinions; it is as though you could not decide otherwise.

There are life threatening relationships where one partner chooses a dominant person who abuses him and that is not healthy either but here the focus is not an abusive relationship necessarily it is on any relationship where the person is constantly on need of attachment to the other person.Dependency can solidify if there is a fear of socializing, fear of stating one ideas independently when there is no reason for not expressing another viewpoint.

Dependency has its origins in families where children could not rely on parents for assurance. When it came for understanding a parent may have been absent or purposely unavailable. It happens in families where the parents drink or on drugs and in families where they split up and the child is confused or might blame himself for the disunity. If there is a child psychiatrist present he would be able to recognize the scenario leading to harmful dependant behavior stemming from  family chemistry like this.

So there are clear signs when the person needs that attachment. He might ask to be constantly present or insist that you call him or her when you go out somewhere. There could be suspicious moments time and again when you decide to call a friend and he is not invited. Each person should be allowed to keep his won friends, a relationship does not mean dropping your friends just because you have found your better half. A person may get violent if he does not have your constant attention and that complicates matters because you could become a victim of abuse, especially of the violence is acted out whenever you seek to have a moment for yourself.

The best way out of this is counseling much the same way that an alcoholic will go to an AAA meeting; being dependent is sort of an addiction just like continued drinking.