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Do Men Have to Share The Household Chores?

Men were the sole breadwinners of the family in the olden days. Today women also go out to work and support the family. Women have to do the household works as well. They are definitely overburdened when they have to do household works alone at home. Well, do men have to share the house hold chores?

Man sharing household chores when the woman is working:  Men were the sole breadwinners of the family in olden days. Today things have changed and more women are into full time employment as they want to share the financial responsibility of the family. When both husband and wife work, it helps them to raise their standard of living. Nevertheless the women feel overly burdened as they have to do all the household chores too. They will be happy if their men come forward to share the household chores with them. Have today’s men understood this? Or are they still living with their egos?

Man sharing house works when the woman is not working: Well, I hope you ‘ll accept that  the men should help their working women in the household chores.  Do men have to help them in household chores if they they are house wives? Well, it depends on the individual man.  A house wife may think why the man should not share the household works when he is living in the house with her. She may think that even if she is not the earning part, it doesn’t matter, as at the end of the day she is taking care of the home, family kids etc. Why should the gender dictate the jobs in the house? On the other hand the man may feel overly burdened if he has to work at home too; well we can leave the option to the man in this case.

How to share the household chores between man and woman?: Today’s men are ready to share the domestic works along with the women. How would the women share the works with the men? Well, they can sit with their men, discuss and divide the duties between them. There are some household works that are meant for men. For instance men can carry the empty gas cylinder, fix the tube light, fans and put the heavy things on the shelves. Men in general would not want their wives to do heavy house hold work.

Both the husband and wife should sit down, discuss and divide the duties. There will always be some things that the wife hates doing and the husband doesn’t mind taking care of and vice versa. They can create a chore chart and stick to it. Above all nothing should be strict, both can adjust and share works according to their moods and availability of time.


·  If both man and woman work in a family it is better that man shares the household chores with the woman.

·  Even if the woman is not working the man can help her in household works if he can. If he really feels overly burdened he can choose to rest at home.

· They can choose the work they want to do and create a chore chart.

· If the man is earning decent income and he is already working hard outside home, he can employ a person to help his woman in the household works. If he can afford to employ more people to take care of all household works, he can let his working woman rest fully at home.

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  1. Uma Shankari

    On September 15, 2010 at 5:20 pm

    Thanks to globalization and men moving out to other lands in search of jobs where cooking their own food has become an economic necessity, gender-based division of labor is slowly getting phased out in India. The pitiable matter is house-work is considered degrading in India and women’s contribution is under-valued. So even when men help in household chores, they do it stealthily so as not appear as “enslaved” by their better-halfs!

  2. The Soul Explorer

    On September 15, 2010 at 7:30 pm

    Practically, this good! Man and woman should share the household chores.

  3. Ramalingam

    On September 15, 2010 at 8:46 pm

    Practical thinking.I have seen a number of men assisting their spouses in cooking,of course when women has to go for work especially in shifts;help them to wash clothes, for example, in washing clothes through a washing machine, women soak them in water, men operate the washing machine and even dry the clothes after washing is finished.It all depends upon the understanding that is available between the couple, number of family members, nature of duty performed by the wife or husband, availability of healthy elder members in the family.In some families it is the duty of the elder members to look after the children, or cooking and even their schooling etc.Thanks for sharing

  4. phoenix2010

    On September 15, 2010 at 9:39 pm

    very good article, i don’t see anything wrong in men helping their wives, and particularly when it is just a living together relationship men don’t feel for it, but then when it is a married relation, then they try to avoid..

  5. Eunice Tan

    On September 15, 2010 at 10:15 pm

    You raise a good topic here.

  6. Noeal V

    On September 15, 2010 at 11:08 pm

    Nice Share.

  7. Anuradha Ramkumar

    On September 16, 2010 at 12:15 am

    Very practical advices.

  8. Starpisces

    On September 16, 2010 at 9:30 am

    very interesting topic.

  9. Nykesha Alexandra

    On September 16, 2010 at 9:18 pm

    This is incredible!

  10. Goodselfme

    On September 16, 2010 at 9:50 pm

    Good thoughts from a man’s point of view. You composed this well with lots of caring.

  11. lakshmi

    On September 17, 2010 at 12:42 am

    practical thinking and useful details given in this article. Hats off.Vijay.

  12. mykseverino88

    On September 19, 2010 at 7:03 pm

    it’s really nice to share the chores inside the house especially that both of you are husband and wife. it’s part of your life.

  13. CC23

    On September 24, 2010 at 12:24 pm

    interesting post. MUST read! =)

  14. john

    On December 5, 2010 at 9:47 pm

    What is fair is my question. I am working two jobs and the sole wage earner. My wife is not working at this time, and complains that the chores are not split down the middle. I don’t mind helping around a little and I do. But seriously what is fair?

  15. Kristie Claar

    On August 10, 2011 at 11:07 am

    I am a mother of 3 small children, my husband and I both work, him a 10 hour day and me an 8 hour day. He also does a lot of construction on the side and is a reservist. I have to admit, sometimes my husband does way more than I do around the house, but I manage to keep up with the dishes and the laundry. But if I were a stay at home mom, I would not expect my husband to do anything in the house unless, I could not physically do it myself. Good article!

  16. Tiki33

    On August 15, 2012 at 12:50 pm

    Many men do not believe that they should work in and out of the home. The married couple is as one and should share the responsibilities.

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