Domestic violence often happens to women and children, but what happens when a man is the subject of an abused relationship? How do we perceive dealing with men calling 911 to report that he was attacked by a spouse or a live-in girlfriend? The truth; we don’t…why, because it’s embarrassing. Men face a greater degree of disbelief and ridicule than women in this situation, which actually enforce the silence.

We (men and women) often make excuses when asked about certain bruises or scars left on the body after an altercation with love ones. (I scaped my leg against the end table or I tripped over the dog) anything to cover up the real issue; being abused by a spouse. Denial is the word that often cross my mind when I read about people, especially women, who shy away from the real problem, but shame actually attacks the pride of an abused male. He feels like he should be strong enough to defend himself. He start to question himself (What wil my friends, colleagues, neighbors, and family think? What will people think if they knewI let a woman beat up on me? She’ll just reverse everything and I’ll end up being the one shamed).

The real problem with men being abused in relationships is the fact that we will not open our mouth and ask for help! I don’t care if you stand 6′8″, you should tell someone if you are being abused! The reason I state this is one day you could go off on the left side and end up some where you don’t want to be (in jail)! Think about it; just because you decided to keep all that build up within, and not discuss it someone, you explode in retaliation by physically harming that person, or even someone who just happen to in your present, who happen to say something related to what you are going through. Don’t end up being on the opposite end of your problem. Speak up and let someone in; don’t wait until its too late.