Domestic Violence: It Must End

“Run, Rihanna, Run!”

Sounds like a good song title, doesn’t it?

When will women in abusive relationships realize they are foolish to stick around, and are as cowardly as the men who abuse them if they do? A man who strikes a woman is a bully and a coward. There are no excuses to be given, and there are none that are acceptable. Men who abuse women are not worthy. They are weak, disgusting creatures.

So many women are frightened of being alone it would seem otherwise they wouldn’t allow themselves to remain in such destructive, soul-destroying relationships!

What really amazes me is someone like Rihanna, for instance, who, from all accounts, is financially secure in her own right. For her to go back to her abuser is beyond my comprehension. Has her abuser stripped her completely of her self-esteem? Who and what gave him that right? The answer is, obviously, Rihanna, herself. Her abuser will continue believing he has that right if she stays with him.

Walk away, Rihanna!

Walk away all you women out there who are being abused at the hands of a cowardly bully!

I witnessed domestic violence when I was a child, and as a child I made a promise to myself that I would never allow myself to be in such a situation. I’ve stuck by that promise. Violence is not love, nor is violence respect, dignity or pride, from any angle. The male abuser respects neither himself nor any woman.

Once an abuser, always an abuser; don’t be fooled into a false sense of security. It WILL happen again! And again and again until you, the abused find the strength to remove yourself from the destructive situation. And do it, not only for yourself, but for your children if there are children in the equation. Children do not deserve to be witnesses to violence. Childhood MUST be allowed to be innocent, happy and stress-free. That is their right!

If a man struck me he would only strike me once! There are two things that are likely to occur if he did. Let me underline “once” – he would only do it once! This is what would happen:

1. He would never get a second chance because I WOULD NOT remain in his company. I’d be gone. This is a certainty. It is black and white.
2. I would probably kill him, or at least, hurt him badly enough that he’d think twice before ever doing it again – to anyone.

It is for the second reason that I wouldn’t remain around for the second round.

If Rihanna or any other woman stays in an abusive relationship she has no respect for herself or for those who really do love her.

How any woman could continue loving the man who has abused her or continues to abuse her is baffling – and, to be honest, it’s sickening. In my opinion, I don’t believe a woman could continue loving her abuser. And if she looks into herself, she will see that she doesn’t. It’s impossible to continue loving someone who beats upon you. She is living in fear. That is no way to live. Life is far too short to allow an abuser to rule one’s life.

Wars have been, and are still being fought for this very reason.

Once should never happen.  Once is one time too many.  Once is the end – there is and there must not be any more.  Do not allow abuse to happen to you.  Go – now!  And don’t look back!