Dysfunction

We have examples of children killed by their own parents for absolutely no reason at all and many who introduce them to substance abuse very early in life. What can be said about parents who would choose their addictive substances over their own children? I recall a young preacher who told a story at a conference I attended two months ago. He was an American whose parents were both alcoholics and usually chose their booze over a meal for their children to eat. They raised three disillusioned boys, one had died from an addiction, another seriously ill and depressed, with the speaker himself being a onetime patient of a mental institution.

This is not a problem based on gender either though many examples above point to men as being the major culprits. No, this is not the isolated situation at all, most of the mothers have equally been influential in some of these terrible acts because they went through the same thing, so did their mothers and they know no other way. Their mentality is imprisoned in the cell of cultural beliefs and influences. Some have made deadly decisions in a moment of anger and rage brutally crushing their children and the people around them. So this internal problem is not targeted to an isolated type of person, but a general breed that have been raised in hostility and are crippled by a conditioned mindset from creating a better family themselves.

So having pointed out the gloom of the world around us, what is my main projection as I conclude? I believe that it is time for individuals to begin to make and take constructive positive decisions as agents of change. It is time to say no to the repetition of generational circles and create new ones. It is time to become accountable for our lives as individuals and collectively. My sincere personal belief is that if an individual knows that they are still deeply wounded by their past, they should not repeat history by producing seeds in that state. They need to determine in their hearts to build a future that does not represent their past but improves it.

My question to you the reader is simple, ‘Why raise a family when you lack the skills, mentality, discipline, knowledge and will power to make a difference? Can u make a change when you have not changed yourself? It is time to say no to dysfunction in our homes which have had a destructive effect on our communities and choose to make an everlasting change. So can we achieve this in our lifetime and adjust our mindset? I take a cue from the words of Barrack Obama the first African American elected president of the United States of America, “YES WE CAN”. I choose not to be judgemental but break it down to the singular unit of responsibility that I believe that we all should, “YES I CAN”.