Family Hidden Hurt

 The wheel of power and control, witnessed by my self and people all over the world.
With out an Idea of what’s actually happening to them.
 
I will list the signs of many types of abuse and hidden hurt.
 
Physical Abuse

• Threats, Isolation,Emotional Abuse, Economic Abuse, Intimidation, Using Privileges
• Hidding or limiting outside involvement
• Making another avoid people/ friends/ family by deliberately embarrassing or humiliating them in font of others
• Expecting another to report every move and activity
• Restricting the use of a car
• Moving Residence
   

Emotional Abuse

• Putting another down/ name calling
• Ignoring or discounting activities and accomplishments
• Making another feel as if they are crazy in public through private humiliation
• Unreasonable jealousy and suspicion
• Playing mind games

 
Economic Abuse

• Preventing another from getting or keeping a job
• Withholding funds
• Spending family income with out consent and/ or making the partner struggle to pay bills
• Everything in the household belongs to the person in control/ Get off my sofa/ its my TV ill watch what i like

 
Intimidation

• Driving recklessly to make another feel threatened or endangered
• Destroying property
• Making another afraid by using looks, actions, gestures
• Throwing objects as an expression of anger to make another feel threatened
• Displaying weapons

 
Using Children or Pets

• Threatening another like a servant
• Making all the big decisions
• Being the one to define Male and Female roles
• Using the child to relay messages

 
Threats

• Threats of violence against significant third parties
• Threats to commit physical or sexual harm
• Threats to commit property destruction
• Threats to commit suicide or murder

 
Physical Abuse

• Biting, Scratching, Slapping, Punching
• Kicking, stomping
• Throwing objects at another
• Locking another in a room or out of the house

 
Who is the Victim?
 
Well the victim can be a Child, Friend, an Adult, usually a person that is hard to communicate with or locks others out, due to the significant up bringing they have had, people that only say as many little words in a sentence as possible. Well some Children are brought up, others Dragged up. And usually has long lasting effects on the human that gets put through such an Emotionally hard life. If its an adult, usually they shut themselves off and don’t like to tell others about what they are experiencing, because they feel so intimidated and weak for the Adult they are suppose to be.
 
If its an infant being controlled by such evil events, usually you’ll notice it’s the child that’s very quiet in the classroom and/or sits at the back of the class, usually has very little to say. And often cries when another child says something that puts them down. And feels like learning is difficult due to lack of communication with others.

Could be a Teenager, and usually when a child gets to their teenage years, they feel that they can make their own choices-also known as adolescence. The mother of this child sometimes struggles to accept or hates the fact that the child is making their own decisions and and make things very difficult at home, and if a teenager has had a bad up bringing, they tend to hang out with others that are a bad influence on them, because that’s all they have ever known, and a lot of the time they turn to heavy drugs or alcohol because it the next best thing, and makes the mind forget the past for the time that they are intoxicated. And some can be artistic and creative because they let the imagination do most of the work, hoping for the best one day. So some can end up strong minded and others weak.
 
Who is the perpetrator?
 
Well if you’re thinking that these people stand out from the rest of us, you are wrong, these people can make things seem fantastic at home. But behind closed doors its a completely different story. The grass is never greener on the other side. They do it sometimes and know full well the damage they are causing to the other people, and some, well they just grow into this person, due to stress and maybe the fact that they were brought into the world on the same path, and feel that its completely normal to speak to others the way they do, and most of the time they struggle to give another the love and affection they desire. They are not all bad and some can recover from this person they have turned into, with the right help that is offered to them or found by them.
 
How can people like you help?
 
Well if you suspect a child being abused, if you hear screaming or shouting from the house next door- report it.
 
If you feel you want to help look after a child, there are many ways to become a foster carer.
 
If you feel like someone is not being completely open with you and looks/sounds depressed, ask if they are experiencing these issues, so raise the facts above, don’t think its crazy to ask such questions. They will feel a sense that you understand, and maybe get something out that’s playing on their mind.