Hotlines for Abused Teens
by One out of four teenagers who is in a serious relationship reported concerns of being abused.
Usually, women are battered by different types of abuses, from mentally to emotionally to physically abuse. Many of these women choose to stay in their current situation due to fear, and safety for their children. The act of violent often results in dead. Every day the new announced another woman was beaten to dead, or shot, or tortured by their mates.
Teenagers are the focus of this article. An alarming rate for abused teens is unbelievable. According to the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, one in four adolescents report being verbally, emotionally, sexually, or physically abuse.
For those of us that have daughters, grand-daughters, and nieces, we need to teach them that any types of abuses are not tolerable, including verbally. We have to guide them out of this vicious cycle. We must let them know that there is help available.
Below is a Collection of Websites and Numbers to Get Help, Advice and Support:
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National Domestic Violence Hotline or call 800-779-7233
This site offers 24/7 support, including referrals to free local counseling for teens and young adults. It opens 365 days and to Puerto Rico, and US Virgin Island.
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Choose Respect
This web site offers information for parents and promotes healthy relationships with respect. Quizzes, downloads, and games for teens from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Department of Health and Human Services, and National Prevention for Injury Prevention and Control.
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National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline or call 866-331-9474
This site offer live chat, a resource center, and a section on “Is this abuse” questions where you can find out if you’re an abusive person or you’re being abused. This is a community for teens to find support and information on dating abuse.
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Break the Cycle or call 866-988-8336
The mission for this site is to break the cycle of abuse. You can donate, get information, and take a look at the curriculum they are offering.
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Love is Not Abuse
This site is funded by Liz Clairborne, Inc. and offered a section just for teens, statistic on dating abuse, and downloadable information for parents and teens.
Obsession, jealousy, and emotional abuse are all common problems in teen relationships. If you find out that your teenager is abused, you may need to contact the other parents, and take some preventive steps, such as monitor cell phones, talk to your teens, use parental authority, and tell your child the rules of dating.
After the breakup, you should change the phone number, and call the police if the other party starts stalking. The fast fact on some of these sites listed above was: “one in every three girls who had been in a serious relationship reported concerns about abuses from their partners.” If this number doesn’t make you care, then what is in the future for these soon to be a woman?
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Post CommentLouie Jerome
On November 15, 2007 at 4:55 am
Useful article and well written. I’d like to add that any child, or teen in UK can contact Childline for help on: 0800 11 11 (UK)
This is a free number.
By the way, I haven’t received any email from you! Where have you sent it? LOL
Judy Sheldon-Walker
On November 15, 2007 at 8:52 am
Thank you for providing our youth with vital information.
Heart Stone
On November 15, 2007 at 2:58 pm
Thanks for the concern for our youth. It is in fact alarming how others abused our teens/youth now a days. We should all be alert for this issue.
Icy, this article become a voice to the whole world. Keep writing. This is quiet useful, informative and very helpful.
Heart.
francie
On November 16, 2007 at 12:22 am
Super information Icy, terrific article. I only hope a great number of people view it, helping those that need it and enlightening all.
valli
On November 22, 2007 at 9:41 am
Excellent article Icy. Very well written. Thanks for the information.
IcyCucky
On December 16, 2007 at 9:36 am
Thank you all for your continuing support! My heart is joyful with encouragement.
Tug
On February 2, 2008 at 10:37 pm
yeah i got abused and no one did anything about it for a long time…i still do sometimes…but i’m too afraid to accually talk to someone in person
IcyCucky
On February 4, 2008 at 11:48 am
Tug,
I’m so sorry to hear this. What do you mean “I still do sometimes?” You can call the hotlines and talk to them. Nobody knows who you are on the phone..Please get help!
Tears_Of_Blood
On August 23, 2008 at 4:24 pm
my whole life i and my sister have been verbally and physically abused we called police told teachers and my mother about my dads out brakes of anger and yet no one cares i’ll had bruses and whipe marks and yet people looked away i’ll tried to kill myself just to get out and obviously it hasn’t work please help me i don’t know how much longer i can stand this
IcyCucky
On August 23, 2008 at 9:59 pm
Dear Tears_of_Blood,
There is hotline number (866-988-8336)that you can call for help. It is a free call! Try it! I’m so sorry to hear this. May God keeps you safe..
confused...
On September 3, 2008 at 3:30 pm
im emotionally abused. as result i treat every1 around me badly. i hav eating disorders. i cut my wrists. i try 2 kill myself. suicide is the only thing on my mind 24/7. i dont no wat 2 do.
IcyCucky
On September 3, 2008 at 6:06 pm
Dear confused,
Help is out there, and YOU need to reach for them. Try calling the toll free hotline number, talk to someone who is trained to guide you..You must take the first step to help yourself..
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On November 12, 2008 at 9:06 pm
i am not personally abused but my best friend is abused by her parents and i dont know what to do or say. is there a place for me to call? please help me. thanks!
BC Doan
On November 13, 2008 at 5:47 am
To #13—Call the National Domestic Violent Hot line at the number above, or your local social services, or your local police office! You can call and report it yourself, or if you are in school, you can talk to your counselor/teachers and voice your concern..Usually, if school is suspecting abuse, they’re obligated to call the police. Good luck to you and your friend!
help me
On March 2, 2009 at 11:57 pm
my mom has only hit me no one else in my family and then when people confernt her on it she saids that i did it so now i am just cutting myself so it looks like i do it to my self i don’t know who to tell and i also don’t know who to call if you could help me at all i would be happy and not kill my self at all ever if i know there is someone i can talk to.
BC Doan
On March 3, 2009 at 7:57 am
Dear “help me”,
Please call this number, and talk to them: call 800-779-7233..They are open 24 hours a day, 365 days a year!
Beautiful Tragedy...
On May 17, 2009 at 11:28 pm
I’ve always been one of those “it” girls. Cheerleading, dance, social clubs. Everyone knows me as this sweet silly girl, who always has a smile on, has nothing wrong in her life. Ever.
It’s mostly bc I put the BIGGEST front up. Only my 2 bestfriends and boyfriend know what really goes on at home. My mother is an ex-drug addict. And now an alcoholic on probation. My entire life she’s beatin myself and my older sister. Before the drugs, during, and after. I don’t know who my father is, 3 possibilities and one paternity test. My grandmother raised me when my mother couldn’t. They’re both bi polar, and have crazy tempers. My sister left when she was my age. WITH A BABY, bc she couldn’t take it anymore. She went to live with her boyfriend. NOW, it was just me. I have 2 younger brothers, but they’d never touch them. Idk why, but I’m glad. One night my mother was drunk and started hitting on me, & i actually fought back. I had bruises everywhere. She chased me with a knife and tried to stab me. She was screaming she’d kill me. She took my cell phone and threw it down to break it bc i was trying to call the police. after a couple hours i called my bestfriend and she came && got me. I snuck out and ran down the street to her car. Only thing i had with me was my purse, & the contents in it. My grandmother just watched, she didn’t even care. She’s hit me before too, but not as often. Now it’s been about a month, & I’ve been staying with my boyfriend and his family. I can’t find a job anywhere bc of the economy, i have plentyy of experience. His mom is paying my phone bill. On her credit, her plan. I love that they’re helpingme but, what do i do? I can’t stay here forver. I don’t even have a car. I’m 17, so after i eventually find a job i can’t get an apt?
I stood up for myself. For once. I can’t go back, i can’t. And i miss my little brothers terribly. I know they need me, I have nightmares they hate me for leaving && i go back && my mother beats me again && almost/does kills me.
What do i do?? Please help me, I don’t wanna end up a stripper, or prostitute bc i ran away from home. When really it’s not running away, it’s protecting myself.
AND i turn 18 in about 4 and a half months.
Great thing is, I have a settlement from an accident when i was 4. That’ll take care of me for a bit, BUT that’s 5 months away. &idk what to do now. I’m giving myself 3 weeks tops. I love my boyfriend and his family, but i can’t mooch off of him forever. Ya know?
I’m so stressed. I have no CLUE what to do, I need advice, help, job, etc.
And yes, I’m done with school. And NO i will not report her/them.
My sister and I actually have a file in Child Protective Services from the 90’s.
A few actually. One report and they’ll take away my brothers for sure. My sister can barely afford her own daughter, so she can’t take them. NO one in my family will either. I would but, i can’t even afford myself. I don’t even have a car. PLUS I’m not 18. I don’t want them to be put through “the system”. My cousin was at one point, and she said it was horrible. They would hit her && steal her underwear. I don’t want that for my brothers.
Please help me, advice on what to do.
Where to call, OR where to go.
God Bless You For All Your Doing,
&& i hope you have a smile on your face everyday
Thank You,
BC Doan
On May 18, 2009 at 6:04 am
Beautiful Tragedy,
The good thing is: you’re out and away from the abuses. I’m glad to know you have a safe place to live for now. Try to find a job, such as at McDonald, Burger King, etc.. closer to your home so you can easily walk there or take a bus. Then save some money for a car. Having a car is another big responsibility with insurance and maintenance. You don’t need that right now!
If you feel that you are smooching on your boyfriend’s family, and that you can help out with money or doing chores around the house, offer them that! You sound like a great person with so much to give! Just keep trying!
You must first take care of yourself, and call your brothers to let them know that you’re working toward a goal in order to help them. They will know that you’re ok, you love and think about them, but you have to get established first.
There is a hotline number in this article that you can also call to see if they can help. 800-779-7233
Please do whatever you can to take care of yourself. If you belong to a church, you could also go there for help!
Wish you all the best, and God bless!
Margie
On September 27, 2009 at 12:09 am
I know of a teenager who is constantly being abused by his mother & stepfather. This past week the mother and her husband beat him, he tried to block the blows but never hit her. The next day she went to school and told his counselors that the teenager had hit her which was a big LIE. She has told the whole neighborhood that he is abusive to her so now nobody talks to him another LIE. She has put a restraining order on the grandparents by going to court and swearing lies as truth and the court believed her even though they had documentation to show that she is an abusive mother. This is not the first time she has beaten him, it happens every 2-3 months. The reason for the restraining order is that the Grandparents found out about the beatings and when they went to confront her & her husband they claim that they were threatened, but that was impossibe since they were not home and they spoke to no-one. CPS has a file on them but every time they go to their home they make it look like the Brady Bunch home. They ask my friend if everything is alright and he says yes, not because it is but because the mother is always present when he is being questioned and face it, if he were to say anythig different, you can be sure he will be beaten. The mother & step-father made a makeshift room out in the garage and that is where he sleeps, they and the other 2 children sleep in their own bedrooms in the house which have all the extras such as t.v. radio, nice furniture, carpeting and computers, he has a twin bed, small dresser and his clothes hanging from a line, no carpeting, no window, no television, no radio, no lamp and at 17 yrs. old has no freedom to go anywhere not even school activities. They are very cruel to him and he deserves to be treated as a human being, not as their personal person to beat up every time they feel like it or when the step-father gets after the Mom and then she takes it out on my friend. Also the garage has dangerous fumes, paints, cleaners and no windows. My friend is handicap and does not deserve to be treated this way. PLEASE can you give me a phone number where we can try to get help for him..Thank You Very Much…Concerned Friend & Family. HELP-HELP-HELP Before it’s to late..
BC Doan
On September 28, 2009 at 7:36 am
Margie,
The phone number is list above: 800-779-7233..Please call them and ask what can be done for your friend..How about taking some pictures as evidence, like where he is sleeping, or bruises?
I hope you can help your friend before it’s too late..
C.S
On December 6, 2010 at 3:57 pm
the National Domestic Violence Hotline Number is 1-800-799-7233. the number posted is incorrect.
Phoenix Montoya
On August 28, 2011 at 9:17 pm
We have ‘Bantay Bata’ here and the ‘Gabriella’ which supports children and women respectively. I am so glad that we have these hotlines. One problem still is these abused people are often too frightened to voice out abuse. These are very helpful hotlines for teens BC.