How to Deal Adolescent?

The age of adolescent is the age of confusion and age of identifying their true identification. Most of the kids in this age group don’t want to be called kids or treated like kids. How than we as adults solve their problems? Is it counselling? Is it freedom? Is it open talks? Even parents have their nail biting hours when these kids turn bully, arrogant, rash, argumentative and also in extreme cases delinquents. Lets try to find out the reason for some of their problems.

Waspishness: They become often irritated as they are undergoing hormonal changes. Physical changes irritate them and they being shy don’t want to open up in front of anyone. Ego yes ego takes birth at this age only. The solution is to pacify their ego by perhaps giving them space and time to take initiative to come and talk. If they don’t rather than compelling create opportunity in natural and friendly way to read their mind.

Arrogance:Loosing temper is common amongst them. All we have to do is show them the way of politeness by showing our own perseverance. Retaliation to their arrogance built confidence for this negative behaviour so better be patient in dealing them with this problem. May be when they are calm we can go for long drive and talk openly with them about the repercussions of such behaviour.

Bullying and back answering: Another tough but controllable problem. Since ego has emerged so it is obvious they think themselves as independent in thinking and approach and who so ever dare to condemn them they take it to their ego and back answer because they think it is cool and they are monarchs means can’t be ruled over. All we have to do is to understand the root cause of their bullying perhaps bad company, family problems, relationships etc has bothered him and he is not showing himself but showing some body’s wrong guidance. We need to be cautious in dealing such cases. Perhaps understanding their psyche can get us good results.

Argumentative: An immediate check is required as soon as we find the arguing. May be he is having some problem killing inside which comes out in frustration.Shower love and affection tackle them by giving friendly counselling and i repeat friendly counselling. They don’t want that you should dictate your terms they need someone on whom they can rely upon and confide.

So adolescents are not an easy age group to study. To win over we have to be manipulative and extra smart. But remember one mantra of being friendly with them and not bossy. See the change coming as friend without making them realise it.

Sangeeta chaudhary