If Opposites Do Attract, I Am Screwed!
by A fun article (rant) about the saying “opposites attract”. Do they really?
Simon Baker
I don’t usually pause a movie to write stuff but this time I had to. Not that the movie is bad. It is quite entertaining. But the cliché the movie is taking for granted really bugged me so here I am. The movie is called Something New,starring Simon Baker (The Mentalist, The Guardian, The Lodger). The movie is about a black woman who is all about efficiency and order, falling for a white guy (Baker) who just loves to live the moment.
The problem is that more often than not, women are portrayed as neat and organized women who can’t handle mess, until this gorgeous and relaxed guy changes all this. The problem? I am the relaxed, fun-loving, let’s- rock-n-roll one! And guess what? I want the character Simon Baker is portraying. Just leave his looks aside for a second. I like mess. I like doing whatever you feel like it whenever you want. I also can’t stand the idea of having a full-time office job. And in these movies, this cool guy is not only artistic type (this one is a landscape architect) but he also happens to be impulsive and passionate and romantic. Oh obviously in real life, you rarely see these qualities together (I haven’t yet). And when you do, there is a chance you won’t be that person’s type. Yes, I know it is a romantic comedy but I am just wondering whether there is truth in this “opposites attract” concept. I am rarely attracted to someone who is my opposite in personality. I mean imagine me, being me with a guy who is obsessively clean. We’d not last 2 days! Or with someone who is hiding his emotions. Or someone who is not thoughtful. You see my point?
Well, if opposites do indeed attract more often than not, it certainly explains the lacks of romance and adventure in my life. Bugger. Surely there should be men out there who aren’t into women with all the classic labels attached. Otherwise, I am screwed. Because I don’t see a marriage is a must in a to-do list.. I don’t want kids. I care about my dreams and I hate playing games in a relationship. OK-I better get back to the movie and enjoy Simon’s character. Let me know what you think about the subject.
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Post CommentShamyl
On April 30, 2010 at 7:36 am
It is certainly not the law that opposites must attract each other but it does happen. It is not very uncommon. There is a certain degree of truth here. Personally, i do not have any preconditions to start a relationship. One should let things happen as they are and the moment you get bored…go your own way. Very interesting post Zoey !!
Christine Ramsay
On April 30, 2010 at 7:55 am
A very interesting read. I think that opposites do attract. You couldn’t be more opposite than my hubby and me. We have very little in common but we have made a go of our relationship for forty years.
Christine
zoeyclark
On April 30, 2010 at 3:28 pm
@ Oh well…I know it happens. It just didn’t happen to me. Well, it turned out that we were opposits afterwards because the guy was playing games. So we fell out. So it doesn’t count;)
Prometheus Ridley Scott
On April 30, 2010 at 6:04 pm
Everyone plays games…just some are good at being a little more subtle…as for opposites attracting? Well it is all down to tastes. We are indviduals after all.
Nice post.
VTech
On April 30, 2010 at 9:55 pm
Good Post.
PR Mace
On May 1, 2010 at 4:27 am
Good interesting read. My husband and I have many opposite opinions but we share a lot of the same view and have a good relationship.
Patricia Rodrigues
On May 1, 2010 at 8:27 am
Yes, I understand your point of view… But, believe me, this law about the opposites do attract is not realistic for human relationships. I look for partners who have a lot in common with me: same interests, similar ideas… and most of all, for someone who does not stress me out !!!
zoeyclark
On May 1, 2010 at 8:47 am
@ craigz: well, I want to play boardgames or spin the bottle or sports. I like games, just not in the relationship. I am not saying don’t put effort or don’t take care of yourself. I am saying don’t try to fool each other.
@PR Mace: Getting along and having fun is what matters. I just don’t like people being turned on only by challenge. Easy never hurt anyone.
zoeyclark
On May 1, 2010 at 8:48 am
@ Patricia: Thank you, Patricia! Thanks for understanding. The movie-Something New was good but I totally failed to see what attracted Simon’s character other than challenge.
lillyrose
On May 2, 2010 at 8:24 am
I think your hormones are raging!! put Simon Baker down!! (he is cute though, love him in the mentalist. I think when you get into a partnership with someone, you become like each other anyway, so don’t worry! just don’t go round wearing the same clothes!!
zoeyclark
On May 2, 2010 at 9:35 am
@ lilyrose: OK, lily- I am guilty as charged. Of course my hormones are raging- it’s Simon Baker we are talking about!!! And I am really short of people who just think outside the box so it is refreshing and fun to watch his Patrick Jane character.
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But hey, I have had problem with attracting the type of guys I really like, so the movie did owe me that rant!!!
Nope, I won’t wear the same clothes. Except for the shirts during the morning afters. That won’t count, right?
Sharif Ishnin
On May 6, 2010 at 11:38 pm
I’m guessing not all opposites attract. Having a lot of things in common can be great but can be pretty boring as well as time goes by right? Well everyone’s having differing opinions anyway.
zoeyclark
On May 7, 2010 at 11:16 am
Yeah, I guess. It is definitely good news for me if not all opposites attract;) I guess you should complete each other’s qualities- both opposite stuff and things in common should be complimentary so it won’t be boring or annoying.
Sophie
On May 14, 2010 at 12:49 pm
You may have different visions but you must have similar base concepts. Like morality codes and life values. It may seem banal but without these encounter points it will be only war inside your four walls. So you can’t be really opposites to “last forever” (that’s another invented story to create confusion and malaise