Infidelity
by There is way too much emphasis on, and exploitation of women in the media today. Everything is about sex, beauty and independence.
Is there any reason to be surprised about the pervasive infidelity in relationships today? This is a “me” society; anything that feels good, is okay.
Who teaches patience, compromise and fidelity today? Uttering marriage vows is nothing more than an act.
Relationships start with physical attraction (often considered lust) and die when things cool down. Many lovers do not allow love to grow; love needs time to grow.
The media (movies, news, talk shows, music, television, commercials and so on) is corrupting our society by its decadent influence, destroying any decent values that may have been taught.
The media’s goal is to convince everyone, especially women that they need to be “hot.”
Sex, Sex, Sex, strongly emphasized by the media is the mind programming process that is hurting everyone but most of us are too self-absorbed to do anything to STOP it.
Basic values taught in the home, is a thing of the past. We (especially the young and women) take our cues from the corrupt media, which tries to have everyone believe nothing is important but themselves.
There is way too much emphasis on, and exploitation of women in the media today. Everything is about sex, beauty and independence. There is nothing wrong with pushing equality in the work place and in earnings, but that is not the subject here.
The various television series, “Sex in the City,” “Desperate Housewives,” “The Real Desperate Housewives,” “Army wives, to name only a few;” most movies showing couples who just met getting down to sex immediately and Soap Operas, all having women sleeping and cheating with everyone, are all evidence of this media corruption and brainwashing.
The media has gotten so brave, and so convinced that we are all so brainwashed, that it is now pushing the limits by allowing a decadent commercial to be shown on regular television viewing time, pushing a small device that fits on the tip of a woman’s finger specifically for the use of self gratification?
Our society is being heavily poisoned and exploited by this corruption. Women are targeted more than men because they are vulnerable. There is heavy emphasis on women to be all godly beautiful and “sexy.”
These are just a very few examples of the decadence by the media that is brainwashing mostly women today.
Unfortunately, I think this it is a view that most people choose not to realize, think about or admit.
Hummm, I wonder why there is so much infidelity? The bottom line is the media is corrupting our society by its decadent influence, mostly for money, but also as a result of extreme liberalism today. Fidelity can not survive when people are constantly being brainwashed against it.
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Post CommentDarla Smith
On January 27, 2009 at 10:21 am
Your right, I believe the media is corrupting our society.
trishia
On January 27, 2009 at 11:11 am
Westbrook,I feel the same as you on this issue.It really disgusts me to see “more you show-the more you go” displayed on most programs. Now,don’t misunderstand me-It’s both the young and older women that have fallen into this trap.(One case scenario) If your dress is way above your knees-why cross your legs to reveal your upper thighs? What happen to crossing your ankles with a poised sitting position? I’m embarrassed for the sake of womanhood. The younger,slender women are not as revealing as the heavier women that expose themselves.I’m afraid nothing is left to the imagination anymore. Thanks for your article. Thumbs up!
Betty Carew
On January 27, 2009 at 11:35 am
You are right on with this article Westbrook but I think that it is also a loss of values and morals that seems to have decended upon on world. Great article Westbrook
Westbrook
On January 27, 2009 at 12:07 pm
Yes Tishia, I was going to include my thoughts on exposure, which I think has gotten way out of control, but didn’t, so thanks for your thoughts on it.
Yaffel, The loss of values can be heavily blamed on the media. It is very difficult for parents to compete with the media. Parents can instill the value of what is right and wrong early in a child’s life, but as they grow older, they will want to be like, what they believe is the norm, which is defined by the media and reinforced by their peers.
Debra.
On January 27, 2009 at 12:36 pm
Westbrook, this is exactly what I was talking about yesterday. It starts with the self image first then comes the exploitation of the word sex between BOTH young men and women. The media heavily influences young women that beauty is only skin deep, which is why you have girls as young as 10 years-old, dieting.
I also agree that parents are constantly fighting against the media and it’s influences on the younger generation. The media plays a big part in the breakdown of morals and loss of values today.
You got some of your biggest movie stars sponsoring charity events and speaking out on them but you later read about their ever changing relationships. These are the sole called roll models that the younger generation falls prey to. So, these kids tend to believe this is what’s cool.
Thought provoking, excellent article, Wess.
Morgana
On January 27, 2009 at 7:17 pm
The entertainment industry and the media make it seem like it’s ok to have more than one partner. They seem to encourage one night stands and easy, “free flowing” sex. I always thought that to have many different sex partners is disgusting and a way to catch something dangerous and unpleasant.
lindalulu
On January 27, 2009 at 7:18 pm
Ya the world is a strange place sometimes and woman are exploited daily. Its too bad, but I do not believe much will change in regards to this topic. Great write though Westbrook and you have been added to my friends list as well.
Majic
On January 27, 2009 at 8:34 pm
Right on!
And if those terrorists think they are propagators of morality, why don’t they just shoot people like Britney Spears or Paris Hilton. Shoot Brad Pitt for cheating on and leaving his wife for a “hot” AJ! They will do the world a big favor.
I think the real terrorists are those who attack our values and have a large part of the media behind them: the ENTERTAINMENT industry. And don’t get me started on gays!…
Denise Kawaii
On January 27, 2009 at 11:43 pm
There are a lot of strong opinions on this subject! I gree that the media has driven our society out beyond the limits to a point where there are no limits at all. Everyone is looking for the next thing to make them feel better; whether it is a new person in our lives, a sleek new phone or push-up bra. We’ve become a throw-away society that tosses things out when we bore of them, and we treat our moral obligation to ourselves the same way we would a box of take-out.
Great topic!
Westbrook
On January 28, 2009 at 1:16 am
Denice, you are correct. That is what I mean by saying we are a “me” society; anything that feels good is okay,” and that we are “self-absorbed.”
Majic, I can understand your frustration. No doubt many people are just as angry as you are about the leaders of our moral decay. Personally, as I think I alluded to in my article, Hollywood is one of the worst culprits of our moral decay. There is way too much emphasis on these, mostly goofy and vain people.
M.A Bhanpurwala
On January 28, 2009 at 5:04 am
you are absolutely right that media is damaging our soceity, thank for sharing
Daisy Peasblossom
On January 28, 2009 at 8:33 am
As an instructor, I see how media affects our youngsters daily. It is not only sexual exploitation, it is the emphasis on having it all, on everything being bright, bold, colorful and MORE. However, a quick peak at US history (just as an example, not pointing fingers here–this is a trend not a unique thing), will reveal the 1920’s–bright, bold, sexy “anything goes” environment. This hit a ker-thud bump with WWI & WWII and the Depression. US society struggled up from the ker-thud with prim middle-class values and extreme conservativism in the 1950’s, swung over to self-expression and reform in the 1960’s, lost the reform part in the 1970’s and got stuck on self-expression and materialism; by the 1980’s, it seemed that producing more and more was the way to go to save the economy–more goods, more jobs, more fun, more, more, more…the 1990’s began to see some painful reality stuff, followed up by the turn of the century, the twin towers tragedy, and war in the middle east. Hollywood, television and the internet give escapism options–and yes, they all focus on bright, bold and more, more, more of whatever it is.
Daisy Peasblossom
On January 28, 2009 at 8:37 am
One other thing: the emphasis for women is NOT on independence; it’s on skilled buck-passing. Independence involves a)responsibility–and that includes keeping vows (but does NOT involve sticking with contracts that are being broken by the other party.) b) Financial independence which involves professionalism in all levels of life.
M Stokes
On January 28, 2009 at 11:06 am
Great article. There are lots of commercials that I feel should never have been aired, along with movies and sitcoms. It’s a sad thing, but we know there are also worse things to come. The Bible speaks of things such as this.
Westbrook
On January 28, 2009 at 12:57 pm
Thanks for your input Daisy. You are correct in how you break down independence. My point is there is heavy pressure on women to go it alone and do whatever they want, whether right or wrong. There is pressure to be the “hot” woman who can go through life not forgiving or compromising. Men are made out as objects of little importance except to see them as all godly beautiful and sexy. No wonder so many young girls are confused and struggling with their identity and purpose! The point here is all of this leads to infidelity in relationships.
I also agree with the fact that history repeats itself, and many of the conditions that we are suffering today have been around before, but that is history, things of the past. That does not mean we should turn our heads to the corruptness of the media today. The media is much more prevelent today and is creating much more idioticy with young girls and women. One of the worst results of all this nonsense is unfaithfulness and infidelity in relationships.
Daisy Peasblossom
On January 28, 2009 at 8:39 pm
Well put, Wes. I agree that the emphasis on looking good, looking young, being forever attractive short-changes both women and men. Furthermore, it gives rise to health problems such as anorexia and over-stressed body structures. As for our youngsters, it really is hard for them bombarded as they are with so many media messages that are shallow and self-serving. I’m afraid I may have over reacted when I got to the word “independent”. Fidelity is a rare commodity these days. The lack of it has many sources–ranging from parents who think kindergarten romances are “cute”, to messages written across the seat of little girls clothing, to shallow programming for children’s entertainment, to bad examples by adults around them.
Yovita Siswati
On January 28, 2009 at 9:15 pm
A very interesting dicussion. I also have a great concern on the effect of the media on our children life and education. I think it applied both for men and women, though sometimes, women got more affected by the media. I never allow my todler kid watch television other than the baby tv. It seems to be ideal method at this time to protect my kid from the media, but I know soon my kid will get older, and I have to start to think of other method. I think the existence of a role model in the family will help.
eddiego65
On January 29, 2009 at 4:49 am
Sadly the media is portraying adultery and extra-marital sex as cool. So I couldn’t agree with you more. Great work!
Colleen Ranney
On January 29, 2009 at 8:39 am
I recently heard a comedian say that 54 % of marriages fail. He says that might not seem like a lot but imagine it this way.
You have to cross a street…only 54 % of the people make it across.
Great article in due need of awareness.
papaleng
On January 29, 2009 at 11:58 am
I’m totally in agreement with your insights and thought about this subject matter, somehow I got reminded with the book I’m Ok But your Not Ok” butthis one taken in a different perspective.
Bo Russo
On January 29, 2009 at 4:11 pm
Wow,lots read this.I agree and want to add something…….I thunnk any one who has read the book of Revelations would agree we are clearly in the last days.They have stuff on tv now that wasn’t even in R rated movies when I was a kid.I am often shocked.One partner,thats it.Promiscuity is the way of disease and death.
Johnny Yuma
On January 30, 2009 at 12:55 am
Wess, this is a great article that I couldn’t agree with more. You would think that the news media would have better sense or that they would be in some other line of work, but I guess not. I was watching CBS early one morning a while back and Harry Smith said to one of the ladies on there when seeing some good looking woman that was on the news, “I would like to bang that one time.” I respected him and watched their morning news show until then. I haven’t watched it since. I didn’t agree with their politics; I could tell that by the fact that they were for Obama, and I wasn’t. Still I liked them better than NBC’s morning news, but since that day I have watched either ABC or NBC when it comes to the morning news. I will never watch Harry Smith again. He didn’t act as if he thought they were off the air and they didn’t cut away from him when he said it either, so I lost respect for the whole bunch there.
Again, I say that you did a wonderful job and everyone left great comments as well.
Johnny Yuma
S A JOHNSON
On January 31, 2009 at 12:08 am
I agree but I also think that it is becoming a higher percentage on guys as well. I mean I remember seeing guys of all shapes and sizes getting almost any type of girl they want but now days while men continue to want prettier and hotter women, women want prettier and hotter men. So I agree that the media and various other things brain wash everyone into believing things but I also think that the only way someone can be brainwashed is if they allow it to happen.
I think that what makes a person is 1/3 parents, 1/3 society (as a whole) and 1/3 yourself. A person isn’t going to just grow up to objectify a woman just because movies, music, and television says so, otherwise all men/woman would be like that.
Ruby Hawk
On January 31, 2009 at 1:25 pm
I completely agree with you.it is apalling what we see on TV and all the media. Sex is the favorite topic with no reguard of the young people who are at risk. Another thing that bugs me is the sexy clothes young girls are wearing. Everything you see in the stores are suggestive.You can hardly find decent clothing. The show with Miley Sirus that all the girls love have the girls dressed to look like prostitutes and have nothing positive that I can see for girls to strive for.
M Stoks
On February 1, 2009 at 1:16 pm
The media and tv producers have gotten ridiculous with the sexual insinuations and the theory of “Sex Sells” When I see movies or shows with it, I no longer watch them. And when I see products or services offered on commercials with it, I make it a point not to use that, ever.
Kate Smedley
On March 7, 2009 at 3:34 am
Excellent article, I totally agree. It really is the throwaway society and that includes relationships, when you get bored, get a newer, fresher model … the media really do not help.
jamie mullen
On June 19, 2009 at 5:05 am
Did you ever see a clockwork orange? When they tied alex to the chair in front of the giant moviescreen and taped his eyelids to make sure he couldn’t blink and then left him there for a few days, that was brainwashing. Also what is it that makes you think sexual repression is a value?
Westbrook
On June 20, 2009 at 10:26 pm
I did see Clockwork Orange and I read the book. I have to disagree with Jamie Mullin. Forcing someone to watch something is not brainwashing…brainwashing is much more complicated and generally subtle, and where did Jamie get the idea that I wrote anythibg about sexual repression or that it was a value? Often there are those who read a lot more into something that is not there.
BradONeill
On July 21, 2009 at 2:47 pm
I have to disagree with your assessment. How is advertising a personal stimulation device corrupting anyone. The womans sexual organs require quite a bit more work than the mans to stimulate. The stigma on Masturbation is Puritanical at best and oppressive at worst. It is merely a body function not some sordid corruption of our society. Sex is the most pleasurable experience God has given us and it is a gift that can be learned, improved, repeated and thoroughly enjoyed. Every man should strive to accommodate his wife or lover in any way that he can. The look on her face is well worth it.
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