Is My Man Cheating?
by Some of the things to be watchful for to detect a liar and a cheater.
One of the age-old questions that women still fix their mouths to say, “Do you think he’s cheating on me?” Well…probably – if you have to ask. Of course there are always little tell-tell signs. Let’s go through a few scenarios.
Scenario 1: Me and my man are sitting on the couch enjoying a movie of some sort, just he-heeing and ha-haaing, and then the cell phone rings (his not yours). He pretends that he doesn’t hear it. You’re like, “Baby, you gonna answer your phone?”. He brushes it off, “They’ll leave a message.” Still laughing up a storm over something that really wouldn’t be that funny if you weren’t watching it with your man. The phone continues to ring and ring. He finally acknowledges the ringing, but chooses to silence it rather than answer it. LADIES, this is a tell-tell sign. If you are in an “exclusive” relationship or somewhat close to it, the dude should not be ignoring or silencing his phone in your presence. There is something being hidden from YOU.
What I would do? I’d grab for it, answer it, see who it is. If it’s innocent (which it probably isn’t if you have to go through all that) so be it. If there was a cause for my concern, he-he and ha-ha his ass right out of your place. If you’re in his place, he-he and ha-ha your ass right out of there.
Scenario 2: You and your man just had a conversation about a situation that apparently didn’t set well with you. He’s lying, but he’s good, and you can’t quite catch him in that one little lie. What do you do? Let it go. This is the version of the story that is in his head. He’s not going to change it – at least not now. A month later, bring up this same situation and watch how everything that could possibly change does. We’re women. We’re smart. Even look for the tiny, minute changes that weren’t there before. Tiny enough so that he forgot, but large enough to throw out inconsistencies. And the inconsistencies are what we’re looking for. ”That’s not what you said before. That ain’t how you expressed it at first.” Yes, inconsistencies can be a foe and a friend. Take it as such.
What would I do? In the past, I would have excused the little inconsistencies, just depending on how inconsistent the inconsistencies are. Hey, I felt like I needed a man, too. Nevertheless, no inconsistencies now. If you love me, be honest with me, regardless of the reaction that you may get from me. I am a scarred women, not trying to take those scars out on on the next, but this is something that I was woman enough to be honest with you , so be man enough to trust me with the truth, no matter how much it hurts.
Keeping it real, though, this is probably a relationship not worth jumping through so many hurdles if there is so much distrust. Think about it, ladies.
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