Jamaican Men and Unwanted Pregnancy
by Jamaican Men continue to ignore their fatherly responsibilities because they live in a society that overlooks there often irresponsible and unethical behavior. Jamaican Men of all strata deny paternity of children and this has lead to widespread single parent families headed by women.
Jamaicans and Unwanted Pregnancy
Scenario
Crystal is 20 years old, she has a job and she is going to school! Crystal meets a 33 year old man by the name of Andrew on the internet via an online dating site. Andrew is charming, intelligent and respectable.
Andrew lives over 200 kilometers away and Crystal decides to meet Andrew and sleep over with him.
Crystal has sex with Andrew and discovers that she is pregnant when she misses her period three weeks later.
Crystal wants to call Andrew and tell him of the pregnancy but she is afraid of what he may respond as they had not spoken in over two weeks. She decides to text the information to him but he does not respond. She asks her sister to call him and he curses her sister and curses her entire family and hangs the phone up! Crystal grudgingly accepts that she is on her own and that this man wants nothing to do with her or her unborn child.
What will she do now that she is pregnant for a man that she barely knows?
She does not even know where he lives or where he works.
How could she have been so stupid?
Then there are her work colleagues, friends and members of the community. What are they going to say and how will they react when they discover her situation?
Her father is a prominent business man in the district, how will he feel?
What will his friends say when they discover that his prized daughter got herself into this thoughtless and asinine situation? What about the rest of her family? What will they think?
Then there is the man that loves her with all his heart and has been waiting for a chance with her for months. How could she tell him that while she had made him wait for almost a year, she had had sex with a man she knew in less than a week? How could she tell him that she was pregnant by this man?
Crystal breaks down and falls into a depression that lasts for months. Her family is enraged, her brothers want blood and her friends are laughing at her. How could she have been so stupid?
Unwanted Pregnancies
Approximately half of all pregnancies that occur in Jamaica are unwanted or untimed pregnancies. Unwanted Pregnancy is a phenomena that is endemic to the Jamaican society especially individuals that are of lower socio economic class compared to their wealthy counterparts. Women often times discover that they are pregnant and that the pregnancy is unanticipated and unwanted. The decision to carry the fetus is frequently the woman’s choice as the man may disappear or state blatantly that he wants absolutely nothing to do with the child or its mother. The pregnant mother soon realizes that her unwanted pregnancy is only half of the problem as she will have to deal with the communal and familial thrashing that she will be subjected to.
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Post Commentkaren price
On June 20, 2009 at 10:37 am
I WENT THROW THE SAME THING AS WELL. NOW MY SON IS 11 YEARS OLD WONDERIG WHAT HIS LOOK LIKE, WHY HE LEFT HIM OR DON’T WONT TO BE BOTHER WITH HIM. IT’S AWFUL I CAN’T EVEN GET CHILD SUPPORT BECUSE HE’S ALIEN. I REALLY DON’T WON’T ANY MONEY FROM HIM. I JUST WON’T HIM TO BE IN HIS SON LIFE. SPEND SOME TIME SO HE CAN SEE WHAT A GREAT KID IHE IS.
therry
On July 17, 2009 at 4:15 pm
yep crystal dis is truly a problem in our society. glad you decided to write yet another profound piece. u have talent baby girl keep it up
tyreses
On July 17, 2009 at 4:18 pm
baby did dis really happen to you. this bastards deserved to be shot and castrated. sometimes i do not understand us as men. why we consistently boast masculinity and insist on feminine recognition and appreciation of our manhood. and we never cease to behave like boy z. our society is embued with slackness class has nothing to do with! men are cruel. sometimes it hurts me that men like myself often have to undo the damage that the men in your publication often do to girls like you!
oniel
On July 17, 2009 at 4:19 pm
hey chris is art reflecting life, did dis happen to you or you r just using ur name as character placement!
shelly ann
On July 18, 2009 at 4:00 pm
Does the author have a child. why did she use her name. is this a true story or is it fiction! well if its true there is nothing new about this storyy. honey it happens in jamaica every day! every day a girl gets pregnant and the man disappears. i hope women will read this article and learn a lesson from it and that men will read it and become more responsible men and dads
jody
On July 18, 2009 at 4:02 pm
yep crystal! u always get the facts straight! a true writer! loll i like this one honey i really do! its so true
therry ann
On September 11, 2009 at 3:02 pm
yeah i also notice that most men a suffer from male pregnancy. they belly big as ever. yeah most of them nah midn them pcikney a some. me glad smady decide fe write bout it
CRYSTAL EVANS
On September 19, 2009 at 2:29 pm
lol… proud jamaican…i am baffled by your response…i do not know whether i am amused by your diatribe or i am incensed. you do have a point because we women often dig ourselves into chasm even when we already stared into the abyss and know it has not bottom. yeah safe sex everytime! spread the word!
jodian williams
On September 27, 2009 at 5:44 pm
jamaican men have some thinking about women and relationships that only god can help them. i met a man who is considered the uptown jamaican man and we get it off. i later find out that i am pregnant and just as u said it the man disappears. when i call him he tells me to get rid of the baby becuz he is married and if his wife finds out his relationship is doomed an that u=i should not talk back to him until i abort the pregnancy. i ask him for the money and he gave it to me. i did not do a abortion i took the money and i bought some baby clothes and prepared for the brith of my child. i see him from time to time and he pretends that he d o not know me. crystal i would like to know what i should do! i have to take cae of my daughter aloe and this man is walking around like nothing happened. i feel bad and confused and i am very angry.. could u help me plzzzzzzzzzzzzz
shawna hall
On December 17, 2009 at 6:22 pm
I got pregnant for my jamaican husband only for him to tell me he didnt want no more children we have 3 together. so I got rid of it only to find out 2 years down the line while I was pregnant he had 2 other women pregnant who went on to have their babies. then he had the gall to ask me if I wanted to meet them.
Carmen
On June 14, 2010 at 10:19 am
Men in America are no different. Some AA men does the same thing. Only diff is wwe can make them pay or they will go to jail.