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Middle Child Syndrome

Are you the middle child and hate it?

What is Middle Child Syndrome and is this real?

Yes this is  real, it is about the child born in between two or more siblings

If you are born in between it is a bigger problem.

Why is this a problem?

The eldest child is the leader, and has decisive qualities this often happens in families, the special attention is given to him or her from the parent,which allows the opportunity of high expectations.

The youngest child relaxes and watches  by, sometimes is spoiled, and has no pressure as the older brother or sister. 

However, the middle child, unlike the rest, of the children is not given much attention.

 

They different characteristics for the middle child

Most of the characteristics are not observed

Low self-esteem

Support is required in anything they do

In some cases talents are wasted and their dreams are not pursued

A feeling of emptiness

Loneliness and jealousy is experienced

Sometimes they are weird or unfriendly

The traits mentioned can interact differently with the different personalities

A child that is an introvert  can be more depressed, and lonelier than the extrovert child.  The possibilities for the middle child is mostly negative.

There are many children that don’t fall into this category of having this kind of personalty. 

Not in all cases would you find the middle child  as described. In some cases the middle child is treated  like  a baby if it is an only girl or boy.  

The Possible Causes

The lack of emotional support, and identity crisis.

The identity crisis is a common to all, something that is a struggle continued with, the eldest and the youngest are the common favourites. In this way the middle child is not given the support or attention.

First born children are smarter, are  given the most attention, they have IQ points higher, by at least three points,  than the other siblings in the family.  They are better educated and go to college or university, while  the middle child is unlikely to go further in studying. This happens in most families.

Also depending on the size of the family.

Are you in this kind of situation as the middle child?

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  1. J M Lennox

    On December 7, 2011 at 6:32 am


    I am a middle child, and yes, your article has very valid points. I also have 3 children and have always kept my experiences in mind regarding my middle child. Unfortunately even awareness and attempts to break the cycle can still be challenging. I believe Middle Child Syndrome exists.

  2. Christine Ramsay

    On December 7, 2011 at 7:14 am


    I know it happens but It didn’t happen in our family as my middle brother was so sweet everyone loved him and they still do. I was the eldest and felt I got blamed for everything. I would have loved a sister.

  3. vickylass

    On December 7, 2011 at 7:30 am


    The characteristics you mention are real, but there’s sometimes the other side of the coin -when the middle child goes apart and does it her own way. It all depends as you say on how the child is and what the family is like. thanks for sharing!

  4. indianwriting

    On December 7, 2011 at 7:38 am


    nice and interesting share. thx

  5. jennifer eiffel01

    On December 7, 2011 at 8:26 am


    My mom is a middle child, but she turned out the best one of the three of them. I get the creeps from my mom’s brother. But I do adore the youngest one.

  6. megamatt09

    On December 7, 2011 at 11:34 am


    I\’m so glad I\’m the only child. Interesting, my mom was the oldest child and my father was the youngest child in his family.

  7. Aroosa Hermosa

    On December 7, 2011 at 11:37 am


    Great info u r giving senorita keep it up.

  8. otnashhhbk

    On December 7, 2011 at 11:56 am


    ok
    I ready become father

  9. erwinkennythomas

    On December 7, 2011 at 4:51 pm


    at times the middle child is neglected

  10. ittech

    On December 8, 2011 at 7:41 am


    nice thanks wonderfully written

  11. ImKarn23

    On December 8, 2011 at 8:59 am


    good information..and i thought being the second girl in 10 months was bad..

  12. SharifaMcFarlane

    On December 8, 2011 at 3:34 pm


    It depends on the person. My sister is the middle child and she’s a doctor. Often does things her own way.

  13. pogi253

    On December 20, 2011 at 6:24 am


    There are many cases where middle offspring do not have middle child character.

  14. girishpuri

    On December 23, 2011 at 11:31 am


    useful share

  15. Avik Chattopadhyay

    On December 25, 2011 at 10:33 am


    interesting !!!

  16. Avik Chattopadhyay

    On December 25, 2011 at 10:35 am


    really interesting insight into the matter…

  17. PHILLY DREAMER

    On December 26, 2011 at 10:53 am


    I worry about this all the time with my middle son, I try to make him feel included as often as possible.

  18. Sharon L. West

    On January 3, 2012 at 10:10 pm


    It is indeed said to be a troubling spot to be in the middle as a sibling. You are always fighting for a place in the hearts of your parents and space in your home. Thanks for the share

  19. ittech

    On January 9, 2012 at 2:50 am


    Great stuff Buzz.

  20. vladimire popovski

    On January 11, 2012 at 8:18 pm


    Very relevant share.

  21. Sonia Doreen

    On February 26, 2012 at 10:08 pm


    Yes a middle child here, very true. There is a term Narcisstic Child too, in my case Sisters and a Mentally ill mother, unable to equally distribute the love between her siblings, so that they don’t hate each other that much when they grow up, ok, sorry times up!

  22. ur guide

    On March 8, 2012 at 12:06 pm


    Good information…….Never knew that such variations exists.

  23. realityspeaks

    On March 9, 2012 at 1:17 am


    Very interesting perspective. It does get difficult at times.

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