Nadya Suleman is Not a Monster, Just Misunderstood

I am one of the rare people who does not hate Nadya.  I understand the lack of love from a mother can make a daughter seek approval.  The approval Nadya is seeking is not really from her mother at this point though, it is from the world.  A person with an insecure attachment to his/her mother causes the person to function in less than normal ways socially. 

I for one have the same problem.  I have anxious-avoidant insecure attachment.  I did “hate” my mother to the degree that I did not want her friendship or want her to be a part of my adult life while I have my own children.  I was protecting my children from my mother’s lack of love. 

I also do not like most women.  There are very few people that I trust enough to want to be friends with.  I can smell phoney and I hate it.  I can only have genuine relationships with people. 

Like Nadya, I have enjoyed being around children because they don’t seem to lie and act phoney like adults do.  They seem to pick up on people’s spirits.  I feel like a child at heart, because I never got a safe environment to learn to trust others, so I am close to my children genuinely.  I also try really hard to be a “better” mother than my mother was.  All that really takes is genuine love for each of my children individually, with no talking behind their backs.  Anything I need to say about them either goes to them directly in a civil manner, or discussed with my husband who is their father. 

Again, I do not hate Nadya Suleman!  I empathize with her.  I am not perfect and no one else is perfect.  I wish people would stop criticizing Nadya.  Her mistakes are easy to point out, but her mistakes are not sins to my knowledge.  I advise all to look in the mirror to point out one’s OWN mistakes!

I would go further to state that some people are JEALOUS of Nadya, seeing as though they have no children and are not in shape physically.  Stop hating on Nadya Suleman.  She is trying to deal with her problems in the best way she knows how to.  Few people know the lonliness associated with not having your mother’s genuine love and respect!