Paternity Doubts: When Men Raise Other Peoples Children Without Knowing

More than half of all men are raising other people’s children

Research reveals that more than half of all married men (51%) are raising other men’s children without the flimsiest idea. While this may not be the case across the whole world, it serves as an indicator of the real extent of cheating in marriages and relationships in general. To gauge the truth of the matter is not easy for various reasons:

Reasons why paternity may never be resolved

a)      Only mothers can say for sure if they cheated and got pregnant as a result of their cheating but since they tend to keep quiet unless things don’t work out, men are left to care for other men’s children instead.

b)      DNA fingerprinting is not only an expensive affair but raises a lot of questions that may break a marriage particularly if it is in its infancy. Many men confronted by this tend to agree to the status quo instead.

c)      Cheating women are very intelligent and will go for a close relative or any man whose appearance more or less matches that of their spouse hence minimizing any doubts as to the paternity of any children born outside marriage.

d)      Sometimes the victims in most cases have problems such as sterility, cryptorchidism, impotence, premature ejaculation, among others which often prevent them from raising issues of paternity.

e)      Sometimes the victims lack any means to provide for the family and have to depend on the cheating wife for survival, making it hard for them to raise any questions as to the real identity of the biological father of the children in the family.

The factors mentioned contribute either to the reluctance of men to find out the truth of their children’s paternity or their inability to do so.

Whose children could they be?

Many times, the real biological father of the child or children a man raises may never be known but the world without may never lack suspects for the candidates are always many but telling for real who the culprit or lucky man is never easy. Think about the following:

a)      That handsome boss – This is not to mean that all bosses are culpable, but you must beware of the number of times your wife worked late and for one reason or another failed to return home, of the number of times she went away on a work related trip but was spotted in town, that could explain where your child came from.

b)      Your brother or cousin – He can’t be let off the hook just yet. Probably you resemble each other and that is what made him useful in this game. He knew he was helping you and therefore becomes more of a philanthropist than a culprit.

c)      The stranger at the party – That daughter you cherish so much or the son who looks just like you may be a stranger’s biologically and not yours like you think. Did I hear you sigh?

d)      The servant – The chauffer, the delivery man, the messenger, the pool boy, the fireman, the plumber, the…the list is endless.

So whose children are they? If it bothers you, find out. If it doesn’t, well forget about it. The answer to this question may not be pleasant which makes questioning a risky affair. If you love and trust each other, the issue of paternity resolution may not be necessary but if you don’t…..