Psychologist’s Advice : How to Change a Baby’s Family Life?

In this article I will address the special period of family life, that when a child is born. What does the appearance of a child’s family? How is the baby received? How is the mother baby relationship?How to identify a difficulty?

The birth of a child is an expected event and imagine the entire family long before he has to occur. Girl or boy will be like to be called, who will resemble … identity of the child and family registration to occur and through all these thoughts, desires, expectations and reality by imagining that accompanies preceding intrauterine period.

The baby is in close touch with everything going on around or through the mother, who send them by voice and gesture a lot of intense feelings and teaches a first form of communication. Contact is the mother who would help him overcome the difficult time of the first separation, when you make contact with the environment much less hospitable than the belly and filled with all sorts of unfriendly stimuli (noise, glare, cold) .

Postpartum period is primarily a change, not only for the mother who goes through many transformations, but the family who will prepare a new rhythm of life, centered in the first months, even up to a year, and child care needs.

Moving from two to three and requires transition from a couple married to one parent. Although the mother is in high demand, she and the baby being a whole, which in the first months can not be separated, the father is equally important so that this child’s life and as a support to the mother.

Often the father tends to be getting more withdrawn because it has the feeling that they do not understand or do not know, either because she is afraid, or sometimes even the mother is the one that tends to exclude, while only giving relationship with their baby. It requires but one that everyone can get used to the role of parent, subsidiary to develop a connection with the child and at the same time to keep and now a couple.

Often this period is seen as a cause for great joy and happiness to the mother and family, is not without difficult moments, especially because of the emotional load that is very intense. Can we addressed this difficulty in terms of different links:

* Contact mother-baby - the mother feels split between enthusiasm, her joy and fatigue, overwhelmed, worries and fears of children, and sometimes sadness that can not be justified.

The appearance of this condition is not unusual, and it usually covers a shorter period, unless the mother is installed postanatala depression although it will continue to take care of the child will be absent and physically indifference. 

Mother’s condition is very important because it is one that all states traudce baby, who manages to calm him, to reassure him, to them satsifaca needs, you may reduce discomfort and at the same time she sends all her moods, due to tight linkage . Between the two there is a permanent emotional circuit, which can sometimes be overwhelming or very demanding and mother may be scared or nervous and shaken baby.

Regarding the baby, the factors that we can put out a distress are linked to eating disorders (vomiting, refusal, reduced appetite), sleep disorders (sleep disordered, sudden awakenings, insomnia), increased agitation (continuously crying , agitation of the body, spasms).

It is important in terms of emphasis of the states through which the mother or the appearance of the above factors to be both a nurse, and a psychological to identify causes and in order to reestablish a climate.

* about the couple - the appearance may be a time close to the couple, an intimate connection to consolidate and give birth to a new stage, but also can be a difficult and, in the two no longer found as married couple, the mother feels caught between the role of wife and mother, the father feels excluded, the couple seems to pass to a secondary place which sometimes leads to a distance

Communication of what parents live, they go through states sharing each other can help them be in touch and stay close.

* Contact with outside family - baby’s arrival and introduction involves the extended family (grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, friends ). This also means when you see a distinction between private life and the family that is made ​​public.

Who comes to visit, when, who stay with the child, which is the period that belongs only to parents, etc.. Removing the outside of the child is an important moment because he represents the new family picture in its complete formula with its new membership and the changes that took loc.Este when the family goes and shows others.

Although this period require much medical attention is important for parents to lean on the meaning and emotional, because many psychological factor is that we can provide answers to many difficult situations