Talking to a Woman Because It is The Right Thing to Do

When was the last time you just talked to a woman for no particular reason other than the fact that you were intrigued by her and wanted to get to know more?  Seriously, no expectations from the conversation but other than to see her for who she really is?  I have thought about how difficult it was for me to talk to women in the past and have come to the conclusion that the expectations that I had of what that conversation may lead to was the reason for the nervousness, not the fact that I was talking to a woman itself.

Men should know how to talk to women without seeing any results come out of that conversation and women should know when to recognize a man that is genuinely interested in them for what it is worth.  If you find that the women that you speak to are bored easily or would rather move on and talk to someone else because you are not trying to get close to them then you are talking to the wrong women.  It is that easy, this is just someone that you do not have as much in common with as you would like to or someone that wants attention from you that is different than what you are ready to provide at that moment.  It isn’t personal, it does not have to be complicated, just move on.

If you really are interested in a woman romantically then by all means, go ahead and do what you need to do.  However, if you are not and all of the sudden the focus of your conversations change or the mood changes, and you find that she is not responsive to your attempts to initiate those conversations with her just move on.  It is not that a woman will not tell you if she is interested, as most will.  What happens is that your average woman wants to see how far you are going to take this and how creative and resourceful you are at getting to that point where she feels that it is now okay to let you in on that fact. 

This isn’t to suggest that everyone woman that is still talking to you after ten or fifteen conversations wants to jump your bones.  This is just to say that women that are still around after that many conversations that flowed easily may honestly consider you to be a friend.  Women that are not, well, it can get uncomfortable and confusing all of the sudden.  People say that men and women cannot be friends, and I do not think that this is the case.  What happens is that people’s expectations change, and they want to be pursued or are in the mood to pursue, and the other person is not reciprocating those actions.