The Bigger The Wedding The Shorter The Marriage
by Marriages are not lasting beyond the church vows, and even those like Al Gore who have remained married for more than four decades are finding reasons for divorce or separation. What is really happening?
Ever wondered why marriages do not last longer than the vows? It’s because couples are taking longer and spending so much on weddings than arranging how to live together happily ever after. Celebrities are spending millions of dollars on weddings that end up lasting for a few hours when there are many better ways of finding a life time mate. Think of the following.
My uncle had the craziest of all unions. He heard a woman screaming her lungs out. She was being followed by unknown assailants who wanted to harm her. He opened his door and rescued the poor woman from the inevitable. She spent the night in his apartment and never left. Well, to cut the long story short, they are still living together as husband and wife, thirty-three years later.
My best friend and roommate on campus, lets call him Fred, had another interesting union. When we were doing our undergraduate degree, he slept with virtually every girl on campus and fell sick, so sick that the whole of his body swell including his gums. I took him to the sanatorium to no avail. He was actually convinced that he had the dreaded HIV/AIDS. Unable to continue with life, he decided to end his life but I insisted on him taking an HIV test before doing anything stupid. I half carried him to the hospital and had the test performed. Guess the results? Negative! The boy got well immediately, went back to his home village, picked a class two dropout and decided to fix his life. This marriage was arranged with the help of his parents who were scared of loosing their only son to HIV. Well he is still going strong, living with his ‘wife’ after more than 15 years!
Compare these two unions, representative of the many unions that litter the entire globe with celebrity weddings that guzzle millions and last for a few hours or days. So many people have taken to arranging weddings for a lifetime, spending every penny on them and filing for a divorce soon after. What is it with big weddings? What is it with earth shaking celebration of nuptials when the centre can’t hold? Its time couples woke up to the reality. The bigger the wedding, the shorter the marriage!
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Post CommentLoveDoctor
On June 16, 2010 at 11:57 am
Lol. Some of your topics are hilarous! So don’t get married. Enjoy the single life! In the Cuban tradition, the women’s parents pay for the entire wedding so who cares big or small just enjoy it. the guys don’t have to pay. So just dance, drink and eat a lot of the wedding cake and strawberries dipped in chocolate fondue.
Jimmy Shilaho
On June 16, 2010 at 1:41 pm
That is funny, and after enjoying…well the fights.
LoveDoctor
On June 16, 2010 at 5:14 pm
So have a pillow fight and create tension, which builds passion. keep up the good work:) I am a fan of yours. I am going to write a few more controversial articles.
yes me
On June 16, 2010 at 5:15 pm
Well, I married young 17, I spent 31 years of….. up down, sideways, and over easy ha ha…. wouldn’t change a day! mind there is always the in between T’s, ha ha these have been great topics my friend ha ha cheers its life.
Adra
On June 16, 2010 at 5:20 pm
These stories are very unlikely and hardly believable.
amanda casey
On June 16, 2010 at 10:15 pm
Wonderful article. When my sister went to get marred, in the Catholic Church, they had to go on a week end retreat to teach them to be good partners for life.
Jimmy Shilaho
On June 16, 2010 at 10:47 pm
Jenn, did it help? We get married with a preformed opinion on what to expect. Unfortunately things don’t always work out the way we wanted. Adra, the two stories I quoted are actually very true. Fred and my uncle John are real people.
Tulan
On June 16, 2010 at 10:52 pm
I know people who married young and were married for many years and others who married young and didn’t stay together. I think it’s in the luck of the draw. I do know that a big expensive wedding doesn’t matter one whit as far as the length of a marriage goes.
wonder
On June 16, 2010 at 11:31 pm
I’m amazed how much time is spent on this frivolity, even when times have changed so much.And those loud and expensive wedding cards that we get here are not my fovourites, what have they to proclaim?I was away for a long time, so i must have missed some articles.
NIYATI BHAT
On June 17, 2010 at 1:26 am
DEFINITELY I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU….AND WELL IN INDIA TOO BRIDE’S PARENTS ARRANGE N PAY FOR THE WEDDING. SO ITS NO TROUBLE FOR GUYS….(TOO UNFAIR,ISN’T IT?)
Starpisces
On June 17, 2010 at 7:54 am
my mum ever received an invitation for the wedding of her friend’s daugther as she always chit chat with some women at the market. Who knows, few days before the big day, the wedding was call off. The problem started when the couples were discussing over the preparation of the wedding, the girl expected a lot and the guy cannot afford so both have to say sayonara.
suhail
On June 17, 2010 at 8:38 am
this is an interesting post .. being a fan of peace and silence i find all the aloha linked with marriages a bit putt-off ! oh well i am 27 still single and knowing my life i know I am heading for some BIG BANG WEDDING oh the dread … interesting accounts of your friends .. as always a good read …
CA Johnson
On June 17, 2010 at 7:18 pm
This is very interesting. I am not married yet, but when I get married, I will probably have a small wedding.
Cynthia Bartlett
On June 18, 2010 at 2:57 pm
I disagree. on my 3 marriage and not one of the them was a “huge, fancy, wedding.”
The main reasons for Divorce are proven to be the following:
1. putting out more cash than what is coming in
2. The “grass is greener on the other side” (forgotten the main reason one got married in the first place. so the “flirt” where ever he/she is encounter looks more appealing than the spouse.)
3. so hot to trot that one can’t wait to get home to the spouse so goes after the first “thing” that shows a mutual interest.
Ladies – keep the skirts down and the panties up.
Men- keep it zipped
don’t spend outside your income
and above all—-Learn what should be shared and what should not be shared, especially learn to share WITH the spouse.