The Father’s Love is Priceless
Too many mothers let their hatred for their children’s father take precedence over their love for their child. They believe that if a man cannot afford to pay child support he is not entitled to see his child.
Some mothers won’t admit that they are jealous of their children’s father new girlfriend by making irrational arguments such as her clothes are too tight, her weave is too long, and she wears entirely too much make-up as legitimate reasons for not letting him see his children. “I don’t want that witch around my children,” jaded mothers argue. Unless the mother truly fears for the safety and well-being of her children, I don’t see the logic in keeping children away from their fathers simply because he can’t or won’t pay child support.
I know that babies can’t survive on oxygen alone. They need food, pampers, shoes, clothes… not to mention a place to live. But, if the father never pays a single dime of child support and he wants to spend time with his child, I think the mother should provide him with this opportunity. It is important for fathers to develop an emotional bond with their children. There is a divine reason that God requires the union of the sperm from the male and the egg from the female to create a human child. The teamwork that is required to manifest that child into existence is also required to sustain it when it gets here.
The first time, I really understood the value of children maintaining a quality, one-on-one relationship with their father was a few years ago when the movie “Poke`mon” was released. My children’s father and I argued over who would take the children to go and see this parental-nerve-challenging movie. Things got a little nasty between us, but I had to pull rank and remind him that I endured labor pains, acquired stretch marks and sagging breasts from giving birth to our children. Given that I had paid these dues, as a mother, I felt that it was his natural duty as a father to sit through the “Poke`mon movie. Reluctantly, he gave in. No woman on this earth who has experienced childbirth deserves to sit through a Poke`mon movie, no matter how much she loves her child.
Seriously, mothers can help fathers establish an emotional attachment to their children by encouraging them to wake-up in the morning with their baby’s sweet, tiny, moist hands holding their faces saying, “Wake-up daddy, I am hungry.” Let the father sit and watch television with his little girl so that he can hear her say, “Daddy, I want that!” after each commercial. Let him watch his children play outside where all the other children have bikes, while his son sits and watches sadly alone on the curb. Let the father experience what it feels like to come home from work tired and exhausted; but somehow find the energy to prepare dinner, help with homework or read a bedtime story to his child. Let the father feel the overwhelming joy of hearing his child say, “Daddy, I love you.” There isn’t an argument in the world that will tug at his heartstrings more potently than letting him look into his children’s adoring eyes and explain to them why he can’t help provide for their physical needs.
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