The vicious Cycle

Today on my way to a dinner I saw a mother viciously hitting her child, As I saw her child being beat to the pulp (no not just a light slap on the hand, not even just a pinch) but seriously the mother was hitting her child so hard in his head and back I swore anymore and the child would be paralyzed. The child wasn’t 13 or even older or even old enough to take the pain, The child was around 4 or 5, The first thing that came to my mind was “Is this woman on drugs!? or is she just psycho!?” The child was crying and crying, So I decide to step in, Now I know it was probably none of my business but if no one was going to say anything than I was. I politely asked her why she hit her child, The first reaction she had was that she looked at me and she told me “Why do you care!? This isn’t your child.” And I told her “I don’t think its fair to hit a child his age, who most likely doesn’t know what he has done, and even if he had done something he is a CHILD regardless of what he did he shouldn’t be severely punished for it, Children make mistakes its how they grow up” she than responds with “DON’T TELL ME HOW TO RAISE MY CHILD” , I had a feeling she didn’t want me around, (definitly not) So I left her alone with an upset face. 

I felt extremely bad for the child, So that same night I decided to research violent parents, and discipline. All the posts that came up had said “violence is good for you kid! its good discipline!” I’m not disagreeing that a light slap in the hands or a “no no!” Isn’t a good way, But brutally scarring your child by beating him like he was some rag doll is no acceptable.

Referring to the title “The vicious cycle” Is exactly what my point is; 

Woman or Men who are raised with violent parents start to come with this thought inside their head that its okay to be violent, They get used to it and the image of “bad” Doesn’t come to mind when they grow up and start hitting their own kids. We often ask ourselves, “why are parents like this? why are more and more children being neglected and abused” For the same reason that the parents of the parents of those kids treated them that way; It’s just a cycle, a never ending vicious cycle. To stop this cycle we have to admit (as parents) that being abusive isn’t a good way to treat their children, as we become more modernized in our society we should come to realize that there is other ways to discipline children.

Before you hit your child, Think “Did I like it when I was being hit?” Most likely no, and your child doesn’t either. Hatred builds up, and no creature deserves to be forced into a life of anger just because of what you were put through. 

These small things can be changed with help, but of course as humans we fail to realize our own mistakes. 

Remember, The first teachers are Parents. Love your child, Don’t abuse it, They were once you.