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Why People Fight

A question whose real reason take different forms in different conditions.

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This question arises several times whenever you come across any kind of fighting. Whether, it is the fight between USA and Afghanistan, China and Tibet, Israel and Palestinians, India and Pakistan or between any two people. At whatever level the fight is, the reason is only one.

The reason, which is common to all kinds of fights, it is just that it changes its form. It can be money, power, land, religion, etc. whatever the form it takes it will not change its identity.

The real reason behind the fights is the feeling of superiority. The tendency to dehumanize others is the real reason. A normal person cannot inflict pain to himself or to his loved ones.

But,

How can he give pain to others?

How can he differentiate between people?

We all had born with similar anatomy. Still, we protect some people while we do not mind to kill others.

What is the reason?

Answer is just one; we dehumanize others whom we do not like. It is just to make us feel that whatever we do is right. It is to convince our mind and soul that the person is not a human and hence giving ourselves the right to manhandle him.

This feeling is very important to create in our mind if want to live after committing heinous crimes and failure to do so will cause depression, mental breakdown or even suicide. It is because once we realize that the other person is human we will start comparing him with ourselves and in a way we start loving him.

For whatever period the hatred arises, even if it arises just in our mind, it is because of this reason only.

A mother will beat his child only when she considers that he is wrong. When she thinks that, her child is still not a perfect human. It is then that she beat her child because she feels that beating will make her child a better human being. In a way, she dehumanizes her own child and hence beat him/her. However, later she might repent for what she has done when she realizes that he/she is her child only i.e. a human only.

We think that if the person is good to us only then he/she is a human being else he/she is not a human being.

Therefore, if we want to stop crime, we have to stop dehumanizing others.

But,

How the feeling of dehumanizing others prevented?

The feeling of dehumanizing mainly comes when we are angry with someone. So, if we have to stop this feeling then we have to stop getting angry.

If, you cannot control anger, do not worry, there is one more solution. Just remind your mind repeatedly that:

Everyone is a human being.

Everyone has the right to live.

I will not dehumanize anyone.

Just keep on repeating whenever you are not working. After some time you will really see the change in yourself.

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  1. xoxo

    On March 23, 2009 at 7:49 am


    Yeah! Peace to all. Well written. You made your points really clear. As a mother, I admit I did beat my child once or twice. I wanted him to be a better person. But after realizing his fear for me, I was not so sure anymore if my way would be for the better of him. Now, when we made punishments we simply ban them from using the tv or computer.

  2. ur guide

    On March 23, 2009 at 8:49 am


    Thanks for ur kind reply and for stop beating ur child.

    With regards,
    urguide

  3. CutestPrincess

    On March 24, 2009 at 12:28 pm


    I am in total agreement with you…

  4. ur guide

    On March 27, 2009 at 11:31 pm


    Thank you princess for supporting me.

    NOTE:

    All readers are invited to post the link of articles which they think is similar to my above article. I will add those links in my article.

    With regards,
    Urguide

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