Non-verbal Means of Communication, Part One

The language of our body, as compared to other verbal (speech) means of communication, is unique. If we imagine that he is from 60 to 80 percent of the transmitted information interlocutor, it is easy to understand the need to interpret this method of contact. If we want to be sure exactly understand the rights, we must unite into one big picture information from the body and verbal expression.
Who among us has not experienced a feeling of vague anxiety when dealing with a man when he claimed one thing, but subconsciously you feel its falsity. You may say that it is intuition and good to those who have. In fact, intuitive easy to develop, partner and watching, knowing the specific meaning of gestures, to make accurate conclusions.
An example of nonverbal communication
At one university in the classroom psychology conducted the experiment. Audience, which consisted of married couples were divided into two groups according to sex and given different options to view videos of crying babies. Then asked to explain their significance. Most women who have had children, accurately transcribed them (hunger, wet diaper, pain, etc.), while men are seen in versions of crying little distinction. This allowed us to conclude that women are more sensitive and observant, easier to interpret non-verbal gestures. Men do it harder, they need the specifics, but there are not any sentimental feelings. Of course, there are exceptions.
This case is still explains the fact why a strong sex can be difficult to tell a lie to his wife that if I had read in his eyes the real situation.
Non-verbal means of communication
Thus, we consider non-verbal means of communication. In order to clearly understand their diverse structure, we present their classification:
Movement expressive expressive (body posture, facial expressions, gestures, gait).
Tactile motion (handshake, pat on the back or shoulder, touching, kissing).
View of visual contact (line of sight, its duration, frequency of contact).
Spatial motion (orientation, distance, location at the table).
In this section detail the first two groups of non-verbal communication and try to describe their meaning. It should be remembered that gesture interpreted separately taken without combination of other signals of the body, so be misled. Therefore, before making specific findings must take into account all the nuances of behavior interlocutor, as well as its physical and psychological condition.
Movement expressive expressive
Open gestures and body posture
Openness
 Hands companion turned his palms upward and widely spread out to the sides. Landing head straight, shoulders straightened. Looking straight. Facial expressions naturally, without stress and stiffness. This attitude of friendliness, as a means of nonverbal communication speaks of openness and sincerity. It also tells about shaking hands with a girth of his two hands. Men can talk to unbutton his shirt or jacket. Communicating with a person involuntarily relax and feel confidence in him.
This technique is recommended if you have communication with people important to you. In conjunction with a sincere tone of voice you will win quickly to your location.
Sympathy
In the non-verbal communication there is the concept of mental contact, which is expressed in involuntary copying of gestures to each other or just behavior. A friend of a friend sent a signal: “I’ll understand perfectly.” And indeed, if to look at a couple talking quietly at the table, we will see similar attitudes, the same location until the hand mirror. If you want to convince the other person in the unconditional sharing his opinions, just copy its body position.
If you observe the gait of a happy man in love, we note a flying gait, which is strongly evident. It is also characteristic of the self-confident, energetic people. The impression is that they transcend all the problems.
Locked gestures and postures (defense, suspicion, secrecy)
Deception
 You probably have seen in a conversation someone is hiding your hands? It is likely that he was not telling the truth, as the subconscious brain sends signals to the body and uttered a lie, a strong desire to take his hands in his pocket to scratch his nose, rubbed his eyes. All these are typical symptoms, however, as I said, explain the meaning of nonverbal gestures have in the aggregate. Scratch your nose can a person suffering from a runny nose, rubbed his eyes – a child who has just woken up, etc.
Defense
Hands crossed on his chest, crossed his legs when standing or sitting – a classic gesture of closure, it’s not. Frequent blinking is a sign of protection loss. Emotional status does not allow a person to feel free and relaxed. If you try to negotiate something with this person, it is likely that you will get rejected. To “break the ice, you must use an above-described means of nonverbal communication, try to take an open stance with palms up.
Gestures of reflection and evaluation
Concentration
 Expressed in the nose, itchy eyes closed. When a person with whom you communicate, decides what to do or what to do, in general thinks about a certain issue – this time he can rub his chin.
Criticality
If a man holds his hand to his chin, with pulling the index finger along his cheeks, while the other hand, supports the elbow of his left eyebrow is lowered – you will realize that he has matured a negative score to an event.
Positivity
Interpreted as a slight head tilt forward and easy hand touch her cheek. Housing body is tilted forward. Before you interested in what’s happening, positively related to information people.

Gestures of doubt and uncertainty
Distrust
 Perhaps you noticed how some students, listening to the speaker, cover mouth with his hand? This gesture indicates disagreement with the opinion of the lecturer. They seem to be holding back his statements, suppress real feelings and experiences. If your friend in a conversation suddenly made a gesture of confidence, stop and think, what words provoked him this reaction? Observing the behavior of a superior, subordinate realizes that it must be said, and what better to remain silent. Disbelief quickly turns into failure, and then refused.
Uncertainty
Such non-verbal gesture as scratching or rubbing behind the ears or neck may indicate that people do not quite understand what was wanted of him, or that in a conversation you have in mind. How to interpret such a gesture, if you were told about the full understanding? Here, preference should be given non-verbal cues of the body. In this case, people did not understand. Hand, grasping the other’s arm from behind, also speaks of the uncertainty, perhaps, its owner is in an unfamiliar society.
Gestures and postures, showing an unwillingness to listen to
Boredom
 Interlocutor props his head on his hand. It is clear that he is indifferent to what is happening. If he is sitting in the audience, we can say with certainty: the lecturer expounded material completely uninteresting. In such cases it is necessary to change the subject to the stirring or “shake” unexpected question. Be sure that he wakes up, and it is you just need.
Disapproval
Shaking with a non-existent lint, smoothing out of wrinkles clothes odergivanie skirts in nonverbal communication indication your opponent does not agree with the stated point of view. You’ll quickly realize the need to move to a neutral topic. However, if the sleeve of his jacket really stuck thread, crushed clothes should not be considered such as a gesture of disapproval.
Willingness to leave
Can be defined on grounds such as lowering the age (loss of interest), scratching the ear (separated from the flow of speech), sipping earlobes (do not want to speak), turning his whole body of the body to the door or the direction of his feet in that direction. Gesture in the form of lifting points and gives a signal to end the conversation.
Irritation
When a person tells a clear lie, and understand that you saw through it, he will experience irritation of your innocence, which may manifest itself in involuntary weakening the tie or collar. In nonverbal communication, it can also manifest itself in rubbing his neck, extra hand movements, pinching the lady handbags, mechanically drafting on paper.
Gestures of dominance
Superiority
 The so-called “director’s position” or “posture boss” in a sitting position. Hands are behind your head, one leg to another. If ever barely covered or corners of the eyes slightly squinted eyes downwards – in front of your arrogance, disdain. This position of the body as a means of nonverbal communication often take the chiefs, people leadership positions. They are confident, openly express their significance to others. Attempting to copy the gesture threatens imminent dismissal.
Equality
Such a gesture consume almost all men, women are much less. Nature of the handshake can be a lot to say, first of all reveal the intentions of another person. If, at the junction of two hands one is above the back side, the owner demonstrates its leading position. You can check how firmly he defended his status as a leader a simple way: to turn his hand up. If you feel resistance, then you can not convince him to take the equality between you.

Sexual gestures
 When a man likes a woman, it demonstrates the thumbs up, plug into his belt, has his hands on hips or straddle. Glance at the woman, usually intimate, and can permanently stay in select parts of the body. A man may inadvertently correct hand tie or collar.
If a woman seeks to be interested, she unconsciously raises his head and straightens her hair, straightens her blouse. More subtle art of seduction by means of nonverbal communication is laid bare wrists, spaced legs in sitting or standing position. If a woman shows an intimate look into the totality of accidentally slipped on the shoulder straps, half-dressed shoes crossed on foot, be confident in her desire to start flirting. Open mouth and wet lips belong to a typical sexual appeal.

Tactile motion
This includes hugging, shaking hands, patting on the shoulder or back, touching, kissing.
Embrace
 By nature’s embrace, their strength, length is determined by the value expressed by human senses.
Cronies, who were in a long separation, when they met nearly strangled each other in a hug. Lovers linger in the gentle embrace of a long time. Hugs between distant relatives, according to the previously supported contacts may be as restrained, cool and passionate. Between close friends, they are soft soulful meaning. At wrestling, for example, the participants briefly embrace and diverge.
Such means of nonverbal communication as the arms are more common in the stronger half of humanity, among women they found a little less. Now you can see on the streets of two teenage girls running towards each other with open arms. At this age, the frequency of these contacts, both among boys and among girls is expressive in nature, when you want to throw out the excess of joy, delight and admiration of the meeting. If you are seeing same-sex couples, slowly pacing the sidewalk in woven arms, it unwittingly may suggest about homosexuals.
Handshakes
 Handshake as a means of nonverbal communication, also differ in the way in which they occurred, the strength and duration. Strong, vigorous shaking hands with a buddy, along with rejoicing says about the sincerity of the partner, his desire to continue the conversation. The girth of his hands in the form of “Gloves” also speaks of friendliness. But if you stretch the lifeless hand, as if dead fish, you do not want to contact.
Cool Hand in a handshake may signal that its owner, or cold, or very worried. On the nervous experience say weeping palm. Hand, palm down providing a handshake, demonstrates a desire to dominate another person. If on the contrary, turned palm up – its owner unconsciously considers himself a subordinate companion.
Pat on the back or shoulder
 Pat on the back or shoulder in the main characteristic of men. These non-verbal gestures are often interpreted as a sign of fellowship, participation or encouragement. They can be seen in almost all age categories. Pat as it demonstrates the virility and the willingness of its owner to come to the rescue.
By the way, do not confuse this with a gesture used in medical practice. On the back slapping a newborn baby so that he cried out and straightened the lungs, back slapping choking man. Pat is a type of massage techniques in practice. That is, the current situation depends on the specific meaning of this gesture.
Touch
Touches are widespread in the world of nonverbal communication. In learning activities, it helps to stop get up to mischief mischievous, in the case of a deaf person – to attract his attention, in medical practice using this gesture diagnose health, massage technique is based on the totality of ways of touching the body, in the intimate sphere between the spouses, they are a prelude to the mix. Different nature of touch is an indicator of unspoken feelings partner. They can be gentle, tender, light, strong, rough, injuring, etc.
Kisses
 Kissing, as a kind of tactile gesture is widely used in all aspects of human life. With respect to a particular item changes the nature of kisses. The mother kissed the child gently and with love between the loving people they can vary from a light touch of lips to a passionate kiss. Here we note that kissing may be a sincere expression of feelings, as well as formal, cold, traditional. Kiss when meeting and parting, kiss during birth.

You met with a variety of non-verbal gestures of the first two groups. I am confident that they will no doubt prove useful to you in an attempt to analyze human behavior on aggregate signals that will help to assess the intentions of a particular interlocutor, even if his speech is in conflict with them. In the next article, “Non-verbal means of communication, Part 2″ dwell on non-verbal means of communication other groups.