Comments on: Are You a Drama Magnet? http://socyberty.com/lifestyle-choices/are-you-a-drama-magnet/ Thu, 31 May 2012 20:46:44 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: hmweimar http://socyberty.com/lifestyle-choices/are-you-a-drama-magnet/comment-page-1/#comment-76603 hmweimar Mon, 02 Mar 2009 20:51:28 +0000 http://socyberty.com/lifestyle-choices/are-you-a-drama-magnet/#comment-76603 I am so sorry it took me so long to get back with you. I have been on sabitacal writing a new book. If you would like to contact me personally for advice, email me at hmweimar@yahoo.com , be sure to mention which article you read. Thank you, HM Weimar I am so sorry it took me so long to get back with you. I have been on sabitacal writing a new book. If you would like to contact me personally for advice, email me at hmweimar@yahoo.com , be sure to mention which article you read. Thank you, HM Weimar

]]> By: Francesca http://socyberty.com/lifestyle-choices/are-you-a-drama-magnet/comment-page-1/#comment-76599 Francesca Sun, 22 Feb 2009 00:14:41 +0000 http://socyberty.com/lifestyle-choices/are-you-a-drama-magnet/#comment-76599 This sounds so much like my best friend, who it was so hard to give up! I just finally had to be honest with her, and this is someone who can't handle criticism. (I know because she would go over and over and over with me about all the supposedly horrible things people said, or might have meant, to her.)<br /> <br /> <br /> I just finally realized that being a 12 hr a day sounding board for her endless pointless hypersensitive obsessions with others went above and beyond the bonds of normal supportive friendship. I had to do little things like sleep, get to work on time, WITHOUT getting in a deadly crash, etc.<br /> <br /> Toxic types are masters of projection and when I finally laid this out, she blamed me. I am truly coming to grips with the fact that none of this is my fault. I miss her, but I realized the creative person I was inseperable from in HS & college was gone, replaced by this narcissistic obsessive who'd given up her life to obsess about what others were doing, not doing, or should be doing [She'd become an avid Dr. Laura listener, and just as hypocritical.]and I really couldn't get her back, no matter how long I treated her with Kidd gloves.<br /> <br /> I deserve a better friendship and I hope to find it. I don't settle now. If I am going to be an on call therapist, honestly, I want to get paid like one.<br /> <br /> It's hard, you'll hear people say such nonsense, and you'll think that you can help them by showing them the light, but you can't. This sounds so much like my best friend, who it was so hard to give up! I just finally had to be honest with her, and this is someone who can’t handle criticism. (I know because she would go over and over and over with me about all the supposedly horrible things people said, or might have meant, to her.)

I just finally realized that being a 12 hr a day sounding board for her endless pointless hypersensitive obsessions with others went above and beyond the bonds of normal supportive friendship. I had to do little things like sleep, get to work on time, WITHOUT getting in a deadly crash, etc.

Toxic types are masters of projection and when I finally laid this out, she blamed me. I am truly coming to grips with the fact that none of this is my fault. I miss her, but I realized the creative person I was inseperable from in HS & college was gone, replaced by this narcissistic obsessive who’d given up her life to obsess about what others were doing, not doing, or should be doing [She'd become an avid Dr. Laura listener, and just as hypocritical.]and I really couldn’t get her back, no matter how long I treated her with Kidd gloves.

I deserve a better friendship and I hope to find it. I don’t settle now. If I am going to be an on call therapist, honestly, I want to get paid like one.

It’s hard, you’ll hear people say such nonsense, and you’ll think that you can help them by showing them the light, but you can’t.

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