To exist or not exist? What does that mean to me?  To exist is to live your life from your true self and accomplish life the way you feel fit too.  To not exist means is to live life according to others and pretending to love your life, when actually you feel numb.  We all have choices; sometime we make poor choices and should change the course of that choice.  However sometimes we make poor choices and then stress ourselves out by continuing to live in that choice rather than changing it.  If we choose to make choices we must make them from our most inner desires. If the choices we make affect others, we need to consider how that choice will affect and what the outcome is for both parties. If both parties make a choice together, then the choice has to come from both deepest desires, or the choice will not exist.

Co-existence requires choices that benefit both parties, but if one of the parties sacrifices self-choice simply because of other party, than they are living a non- existence life.  One party can not be the only one sacrificing choices, it take both parties to sacrificing choices, also accepting choices that help each party grow as an individual. If this can not be done, there is no happiness in their co-existence.

This is where love relationship play a role in choices.

How and why do we choose a partner?  It about the choices we make in a relationship that can build or destroy one.  If one chooses choices completely for self-rewards without consideration for the other partner, then the other partner will only have two simple choices: One to leave the relationship or continue to choose the choice on non-existence in the relationship. Other problems that cause a partner or partner to stay together in an unhappy relationship are fear of choices. Partners don’t choose choices that will make then happy because they find all stressful choices not too. For example, who take care of me, where will I go, I don’t have skills to get a job, thinking is this the only partner who will accept me, and since I am already in a relationship why try to start anew.  Happiness is dependent on self-choices first in order for happiness to be partnership choice.  Only when one feels confident to change their choices, then the choice will be made. Fear is the greatest barrier we place on ourselves in making decisions.  Through our mistakes we grow character and that does not mean we have to continue to live in those mistakes.  I myself continually need to accept what I have written, and when I do, my life will only get better.