Define Your Shape
by The unpredictability of life demands that we be willing to make compromises in order to achieve long-term goals. Knowing your shape makes it easier to navigate the road filled with different shaped holes.
Do you sometimes feel as if you’re a square peg trying to fit in a round hole? At other times it is more like being forced to fit into a hole contrary to our shape. In any case, when we know our shape, it is much easier to find the hole where we will fit comfortably enough and still have room to grow. Initially, for expediency sake or because of some unforeseen circumstance, we may have to wedge ourselves in an ill-fitting hole. That’s life; things happen and we have to make the best of it.
Now, defining our shape can be a life-changing event. especially if all we have known so far is how to play the chameleon distorting ourselves to fit in holes of different sizes. Yet even as we shift and change with the passing landscape of people and situations in our lives, we realize that we are not comfortable. We don’t fit and the agony of forcing or being forced is painfully obvious.
If you are ready to acknowledge your shape and find your corresponding hole, ask the following questions:
Who Am I Really?
Frequently, all we know about our selves is what other people have said about us or told us to our faces. We’ve shaped ourselves based on how they treated us and then other people treat us on the basis of the shapes we adopted. That’s a sad reality.
So, describe yourself. You are not alone if you hesitate but it’s a strange feeling isn’t it? It makes you wonder, “Do I really know myself?”
You don’t have to follow a chronological path. Begin with the present, the past or go back and forth. Write the truths about yourself that pop up right away. You will find that one memory will spark another, which might reveal a unique characteristic or a personal preference.
Far too often, we take for granted many of the things that are true of us and make us the unique humans we are. They fade into the forest of responsibilities and demands of our lives and consequently, we forget.
Give this stage the time and attention it deserves. Remember too, that a strong spiritual life is one of the major foundation blocks for understanding who you are.
What Do I Want?
It’s the story of our lives, isn’t it? We get lost in the expectations of others and eventually, disconnect from our dreams. I know it to be true in my own life. I allowed other people to dismantle my goals and dreams and erect their personal visions for my life. Has that been your experience? Is it your reality today?
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